A pregnant mother of three daughters burst into tears of ‘disappointment’ after discovering her fourth child was a girl – adding she was keen to experience the bond between mother and son.
Kendra Evansfrom California, who has now given birth to her fourth child, was captured in a moment of pure sadness at her own gender reveal when she found out she was having another girl, prompting her to burst into tears.
The mother struggled to hide her frustration when she saw the hint of pink smoke that indicated she was having another daughter, complaining about “why” the family had to get “another girl.”
In a viral clip, which has now been viewed more than 4.7 million times and shared on TikTok, the mother and her eldest daughter were seen crying and screaming at the thought of bringing another daughter into their world – with Kendra pleading with others not to judge her as she shared the reality of “gender disappointment.”
Kendra Evans is a mother of four girls who burst into tears of ‘disappointment’ after discovering she was expecting another daughter
She was captured in a moment of pure sadness at her own gender reveal when she found out she was having another girl, prompting her to burst into tears
The mother struggled to hide her frustration when she saw the hint of pink smoke that indicated she was having another daughter, as she complained about ‘why’ she had to have ‘another girl’
The video begins with Kendra, husband Christopher and her three daughters – Bexley, Tymree and Wrenley – standing around a Jack-O-Lantern filled with smoke.
As the smoke turned pink, Kendra leaned over and burst into tears as her eldest daughter screamed, “Are we having a girl? What? Why should we get a girl?’
Off camera you hear someone yelling, “Girl gang all day.”
Although meant positively, the comment prompted the mother to cry even more, while Christopher tried to comfort her by rubbing her back.
At the end of the clip, Kendra showed footage of her family of six and said the family is happier than ever and couldn’t imagine their lives without their fourth daughter, Nellie.
And it seems like her other daughters were also warming up to the idea of having another sister, as they could be seen hugging Nellie and smiling from ear to ear with every click.
In the caption, she assured viewers that she was grateful and loved Nellie, while asking them to understand her reaction.
‘Gender disappointment is real so don’t judge us, we didn’t know our Nellie would complete our family and we couldn’t be happier raising our four daughters! I couldn’t imagine life without that sweet girl,” she captioned the clip.
The video begins with Kendra, husband Christopher and her three daughters – Bexley, Tymree and Wrenley – standing around a Jack-O-Lantern filled with smoke.
As the smoke turned pink, Kendra leaned over and burst into tears as her eldest daughter screamed, “Are we having a girl? What? Why should we get a girl?’
In the caption, she assured viewers that she was grateful and loved Nellie, while asking them to understand her reaction.
People flooded the comments, with many of them showing the mother’s grace and validating her feelings.
One person said: ‘Gender disappointment is so real and it doesn’t mean we don’t love our children.’
Another user wrote: ‘I have three sons who I love more than life itself, but gender disappointment is real and that’s okay.’
‘Gender disappointment is completely real! And at the same time you feel extremely guilty for thinking this way about your baby. That makes it doubly hard,” a third person added.
Someone else wrote: ‘I totally feel you here – this is how I felt when I found out I was having another boy. All I ever wanted was a girl who loved you, Mom.”
And while many users came to her defense, others were quick to condemn the mother of four for being disappointed.
People were divided in their feelings, with some parents claiming they felt the same, while others told her she should be lucky to have even one child.
People flooded the comments, with many of them showing the mother’s grace and validating her feelings
One person said: ‘Gosh…I could only have one baby (a boy). I would have given anything to have more. This makes me sad.’
Another user wrote: ‘Some people can’t even have children.’
‘This is really sad and terrible. “I came from an all-girl family and neither of my parents expressed anything but gratitude for their children,” someone else added.
“Don’t do that, your daughter will see this video someday,” said a fourth user.
In an interview with Peoplethe mother opened up about her disappointment and why she wanted a boy so badly, asking people to understand her struggle.
She told the outlet, “When I got pregnant with my fourth baby, I knew it was my last and after already having three amazing daughters, it was only natural that I naturally wanted a boy.
And while many users came to her defense, others were quick to condemn the mother of four for being disappointed
“Plus, all three of my pregnancies with my daughters were all exactly the same, but with this last pregnancy, everything was so different that I swore in my head it was a boy.”
Kendra explained that she didn’t even want to have a gender reveal at first because she didn’t want to be “disappointed in front of people” if it wasn’t a boy, but eventually changed her mind because she didn’t. want to have some ‘regret’.
Although she went into the gender reveal knowing she had to keep her emotions in check, seeing the pink smoke ultimately got the best of her.
She revealed that she couldn’t help but think that she would never experience the love between mother and son.
The mother of four told the newspaper: “All these thoughts flooded in, thoughts that I will never have a son, never be able to experience what it’s like to have a mother-son bond, to have a ‘mama’s boy ‘ to have. ‘, or the like.’
In an interview with People, the mother opened up about her disappointment and why she wanted a boy so badly, asking people to understand her struggle.
She noted that she wanted others to know about her feelings, adding that gender disappointment should be normalized
She added that she was so “lucky” to have had her fourth daughter
As for her eldest daughter, Kendra explained that she had wanted a boy her whole life and “couldn’t mask her initial disappointment.”
She noted that she wanted others to know about her feelings, adding that gender disappointment should be normalized.
“Our feelings are valid as human beings and gender disappointment should become more normalized. You don’t know anyone’s situation or feelings, and just because someone is initially disappointed doesn’t mean the baby isn’t loved,” the mother told People.
She added that she was so “lucky” to have had her fourth daughter.