Polyamorous couple makes a Google Doc of rules – including when to hook up with other people
Is this the key to a happy relationship? A polyamorous couple reveal they keep a GOOGLE DOC to track finances, rules about fighting — and the other people they date — and insist EVERY romance should have one
- Nick Piperno and Millie Boella, from Canada, have been together for 13 years
- The pair drafted the five-page contract to manage expectations
- Piperino and Boella are now encouraging others to use the same system
A polyamorous couple has revealed how they created a Google Doc for all their relationship logistics — and insist EVERY couple should have one.
Nick Piperno and Millie Boella, who live in Toronto, Canada, have been together for 13 years and created the five-page contract as a way to manage expectations in their multiple relationships.
The document, made in the second year of their courtship, outlines rules about how to argue, how much time to spend together, and how to communicate with each other as well relationship rules.
Piperino and Boella are now encouraging others to use the same system – and believe it can also help with monogamous dynamics.
Nick Piperno and Millie Boella, who live in Toronto, Canada, have been together for 13 years and created the five-page contract as a way to manage expectations in their multiple relationships.
Piperino and Boella are now encouraging others to use the same system – and believe it can also help with monogamous dynamics
The couple has an egalitarian polyamorous dynamic – meaning it is a non-hierarchical polyamory where no partner is favored over the others.
And Boella told it Insider that keeping a spreadsheet to keep track of the smaller details helped them maintain it successfully.
Speaking of their unconventional method, Boella said: ‘We would like to clarify everything, so that there are no misunderstandings and everyone is informed and feels empowered to participate in relationship negotiations.
‘Because we are human beings, we change and we don’t know how things will change.
“So this gives us quite a lot of stability and sense of where we stand.”
The first draft was based on Tristan Taormino’s book Opening Up, in which the non-monogamy expert explores how to set boundaries, avoid jealousy, and manage time.
Boella said they are now treating the contract as their own Bill of Rights and will not shy away from researching any topic – including health care and safe sex policies.
They decided to revisit it every three years or when one of the parties entered into a new relationship.
Piperno recently started seeing someone else, meaning household finance clauses had to be changed as he started dividing his time between the two
Boella said they are now treating the contract as their own Bill of Rights and are not shying away from exploring any topic, including health care and safe sex.
This happened a little over two years ago when Piperno started seeing someone else, meaning household finance clauses had to be changed as he started dividing his time between the two.
Piperno has also made his own contract with his new partner.
The pair believe their system can also help with monogamous dynamics where gender roles are often assumed.
Piperino and Boella founded an initiative in 2021 – called Decolonizing Love – in an effort to “make polyamory more accessible and inclusive for all, and to provide holistic support to individuals navigating polyamorous relationships.”