A man has sparked backlash after telling his husbands to stop watching their wives give birth because it ‘ruins sex’.
Podcast host Elijah Schaffer, from Los Angeles, revealed his unfiltered thoughts on Xin which he stated that men who “saw a baby come out of their wives” during childbirth were causing “more harm than good” to a couple’s sex life.
The influencer, who hosts culture and comedy pod ‘Slightly offensive‘ might be speaking from experience, after informing his fans Instagram last year that he and partner Kez had welcomed a ‘happy and healthy’ first child.
While many attacked Elijah, claiming he was “unfit for fatherhood” and labeling him “weak,” some sided with this belief due to “willful ignorance.”
Referring to a viral image of a man visibly shaken by the sight of childbirth, he said: ‘Unpopular opinion: I don’t think men should see the baby come out of their wives this way.
Podcast host Elijah Schaffer (pictured) has faced backlash after telling husbands to stop watching their wives give birth because it ‘ruins the sex’
The LA native told
‘It can completely ruin sex life and badly change the dynamics of seduction etc. between spouses. I’ve seen more harm than good come from this. We need stricter gender differences. Stop this.’
In the photo, an unnamed woman lay in what appeared to be a hospital bed with her legs apart in the air, apparently after giving birth.
As the woman lay there looking distraught – perhaps from the stress of childbirth – a medical professional grabbed a newborn baby with both hands.
Meanwhile, a man, believed to be her partner, could be seen standing next to the bed with a look of horror.
The post provoked a range of reactions as people debated whether Elijah’s opinion was right or wrong.
‘Hey? It’s not traumatizing to see your child born, it’s amazing.
“I’ve played for three kids and it hasn’t changed anything except increased my love for my wife, who made incredible sacrifices to bring our children into the world,” one person wrote.
Someone else also disagreed, explaining, “I don’t know, man, if you can’t see your child being born, maybe you’re not cut out for fatherhood. [I] I saw my little one come out and it was pretty cool and interesting. Doc even let me cut the umbilical cord. The sex life with the woman is also unchanged.’
One man insisted that childbirth distinguished boys from men. He wrote: ‘I disagree, that moment is what separates boys from men. Watching it made me a) respect my wife more [the] work and pain she endured to get to that moment and b) looking into my child’s eyes for the first time was absolutely priceless.”
The influencer may be speaking from experience, having informed his fans on Instagram last year that he and partner Kez had welcomed a ‘happy and healthy’ first child
Many attacked Elijah, claiming he was ‘unfit for fatherhood’ and labeled him ‘weak’, while some sided with the faith due to ‘willful ignorance’.
One user said women should be seen as more than just ‘sex objects’, writing: ‘It depends on how you view your wife and childbirth. I am amazed at how God created women’s bodies to bring new life into the world and I was in awe as I watched my children being born. My wife is not a sex object, she is my wife, mother of our children, and will always be beautiful.’
“It only ruins the weak men,” said one woman. ‘Do you have a band for brains? My husband saw both of my children leave my body. The sex life is still relevant.’
Meanwhile, one user “agreed” with Elijah because “sometimes willful ignorance is good.”
Elsewhere a woman said: ‘I think you might be right. I understand how it might help the mother to get the support, but the tradition has always been for the father to wait in the wings while women tended to the mother. I think that’s best in most cases.’