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Paramedic Nikki Jurcutz has spoken out about the gender in disappointment and urged others to be open and honest about it as well.
A pregnant mother of two has urged people to be more open and honest about gender disappointment after finding out her third child is a boy.
Paramedic Nikki Jurcutz bravely admitted that she, her husband and their daughter felt “sad” when they found out the gender of their unborn baby.
the Tiny hearts education The founder has been very open about her pregnancy journey, including grieving loss, so she’s no stranger to broaching ‘taboo’ topics.
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“Sure it’s a taboo subject, but last night 11,000 people admitted to experiencing it, whether it was a slight ohh or a major disappointment, and another 6,000 said they didn’t because they got what they wanted but otherwise would have.” said the mom wrote in a post on Instagram.
He added that the numbers come from his own survey and represent 65 percent of the participants, showing that it is “very real.”
“We wanted a girl, for many reasons and that’s okay, and it’s okay to feel sad that we’re saying goodbye to that idea. The sadness you feel can coexist with emotion, ”she wrote in the publication along with a photo of her eldest son, very disappointed in her.
“We were saddened that our little girl did not fulfill the dream of a little sister, that we could not give aunts, uncles and grandparents a girl, in a sea of children.”
She made her post alongside this heartbreaking image of her disappointed eldest daughter.
Due to welcome her son in June, Nikki says gender disappointment “absolutely coexists with love and joy and happiness.”
“Most of all, the only thing we really care about is a healthy baby and we feel blessed.”
He also asked people to be kind.
‘Remember, we all walk through life in different shoes, have different life experiences and this shapes who we are and our perspectives. Some are more privileged than others, I admit.
‘So for some it’s completely incomprehensible to have these feelings and that’s okay. I certainly got some heated messages last night, but I’m not going to tell those people not to feel their feelings, because that would be hypocritical of me, but what I will say is that just because they didn’t experience it or don’t get it, doesn’t mean they You have the right to minimize how others feel,” he said.
Nikki has been very open about her pregnancy, and also about experiencing loss on her journey to complete her family.
‘We have to stop telling women that we should or shouldn’t feel a certain way. We don’t always feel what we expect or want to feel, that’s life.’
He went on to reveal that he’s learned that most people don’t react in the “expected or accepted” way.
“I’ve seen people go silent when you’d expect hysteria, I’ve seen people laugh when you’d expect to cry, I’ve seen people disassociate when you’d expect euphoria,” he said.
“Humans are complex, and if we all aspire to accept and allow people to feel their feelings without judging them, we are doing important work in shaping our little ones’ emotional intelligence.
She also shared this grip on her stories, showing the harsh reality of the situation.
“Gender disappointment is real, it can affect couples and children, it’s okay and it will pass.”
Nikki’s lengthy post was enthusiastically received by her followers, many of whom thanked her for her raw honesty.
‘Thank you for sharing this. Sometimes it’s so hard to put it into words for friends and family to understand, I personally don’t like the word gender disappointment because the stigma around the word ‘disappointment’ makes people think we’re disappointed in the babies we we are currently pregnant or the baby we have which is so hard to explain. I like to call it gender mourning because it is mourning mourning for a child you may never have,’ wrote one woman.
“Just because you wanted a gender doesn’t necessarily mean you love your baby less or that you would change it. Thanks for being brave,’ said a second.
Others shared their own experiences with gender disappointment.
“Someone told me like this ‘I’m not sad about having a child, I’m grieving the daughter I’ll never have and the dreams I’ve had for her all my life’, hit the nail on the head. head to myself and it made me feel a lot less guilty. I love my children and never cared about having children. I wanted a daughter too,” wrote one mother.
‘I am a girl mother of two beautiful babies. I absolutely adore you both with everything I have, but I regret the fact that I will never have a child,” added another.