A man has candidly revealed how his wife got pregnant while having an affair, but now that he has lost the baby he is resenting him saying he wouldn’t be raising the child if it wasn’t his.
The unnamed husband, believed to be from the US, used Reddit’s popular AITAH thread to unravel the details of the difficult dynamic.
He claimed his wife was a serial cheater, but showed “little to no remorse for what she did.”
The irritated man revealed that he had tried to make things work but was struggling to find a way forward.
The unnamed husband, believed to be from the US, used Reddit’s popular AITAH thread to unravel the details of the difficult dynamic.
He claimed his wife was a serial cheater but showed ‘little to no remorse for what she did’ (stock image)
The The post on Reddit, shared by user MulberryCultural7789, was captioned: ‘Wife cheated, got pregnant, but lost it. I don’t know if it was mine or not, but I told her I wouldn’t raise her affair baby. Am I the hole?’
He elaborated further, writing, “She is clearly grieving, and I have supported her throughout.
“The worst thing I’ve done since she told me she’s pregnant and it might not be mine is to say I wouldn’t raise her affair baby.
“She throws it in my face every day, and I don’t even talk about her cheating because I try not to argue.”
The exasperated husband continued, “She shows little to no sadness about what she has done, and often tells me she doesn’t care because she lost the baby.
“I also told her that if I got even a hint of her cheating, I would leave. As a result, she feels unstable in the marriage and hates me. Am I the hole?’
But before readers could chime in, he provided an update saying, “The next day I told her I was done. Then I offered an olive branch, because damn, I married her for a reason.
“If she wants to remain my wife, she will go to couples therapy, individual therapy, get off social media and get help for her depression. I have her location and I will randomly check her phone.
The man went on to say that there had been a series of developments in the time that had passed since his original position
“I offered her the same things because I have nothing to hide. I know the therapist is going to tear her apart. I hope that changes her. I don’t think this will be enough to stay, but I’m going to do my very best to at least say I did.”
Despite the strong position, he made a comment: ‘By the way, I hate acting this way. Locking her up like this is against my morals, but it’s the only way I can even consider trusting her again. It will most likely make her rebel against me.”
The man went on to say that there had been a series of developments in the time that had passed since his original position.
He said the couple had a therapist consultation before booking an STD test and consulting a lawyer.
“The most important thing is that she thinks she gets half of the house, but I bought it before the wedding without her help.
‘My lawyer says she is not entitled to it. I’ll keep that in my back pocket for now. She doesn’t know I spoke to a lawyer.
‘Besides, she refuses to tell me how she cheated on me. All I know is who it was and a vague timeline.
‘I want to know what she told me she was doing, but I wasn’t allowed to know. She said her location was on. She refuses to tell me until therapy in two weeks. I think I should have the right to know, right?
“Am I an asshole for talking to a lawyer and hiding divorce papers under my mattress while I ‘try to make it work’ while I wait for a couples counseling appointment?”
The Reddit post has received more than 5,200 comments to date, with most users appearing to side with the husband
The Reddit post has received more than 5,200 comments so far, with most users appearing to side with the husband.
He responded to the comments of several users and revealed his situation in more detail.
The unnamed man admitted that she had cheated “three times since marriage” and “once before marriage.”
The man added in another response that she’s “definitely masking trauma, but she’s not willing to face it.” She’d rather scroll through Instagram and get high.”
He also admitted that ‘the only reason to stay together is because she is dependent on [him] financial and [they] I have a lot of animals, not even children.’
And other social media users were quick to share their own thoughts.
One person wrote: ‘She shows no remorse. Why would you stay?’
He replied, “I ask myself the same thing every day.”
Other users sarcastically called him the bastard for not divorcing her sooner
“The moment she cheated, she lost the high ground. Sure, it sucks that she lost the baby, but her actions make you NTA because you’re emotionally at a loss. Leave her. She is not someone you want to build a life with,” another added.
A third person chimed in: “Lawyer present. Making plans. Dump the cheating/gaslighting husband.”
“She’s a mess and she even lets you know she doesn’t care about you. She’ll cheat again if she doesn’t already. It’s going to end in divorce sooner or later anyway, so I wouldn’t waste any time and get it done,” a fourth person added.
Another wrote: ‘She cheated. Why don’t YOU feel unstable in the relationship?’
“I understand she’s grieving and that’s legitimate, but it’s not your fault. You need to get out of that relationship as soon as possible. Once a cheater, always a cheater,” said another.
Other users sarcastically called him the bastard for not divorcing her sooner.