My partner’s sister keeps dumping his nephews on us and they’ve broken my iPad, ruined our date night and disturbed my work meetings – people say I should tell him to move out
A woman has expressed her frustration with her boyfriend’s poorly behaved nephews after they ruined the couple’s date night.
The woman went to the British parenting forum Mothernet to explain that she and her partner are a kind of on-demand childcare for her sister-in-law.
She told how they were saddled with the eight and ten year olds for a dinner they had been looking forward to for weeks.
And this wasn’t the first time their plans were ruined. The youths had already enraged the woman because they had damaged several items, including her iPad.
Parents responded to the comments to share their empathy for the aunt, noting that the children behaved ‘very poorly’, with one saying she had to tell her partner to move out if he didn’t put her first .
The woman thinks her partner’s eight- and ten-year-old nephews, who behave badly, are destroying their relationship. She no longer wants to be burdened with it in the short term (stock image)
The woman explained that her sister-in-law ruined their date night after asking her partner to take care of the boys.
He agreed because his sister complained that she and her husband were having a “stressful week” at work.
Despite having dinner plans reserved weeks in advance, he agreed to take care of his nephews instead.
The anonymous woman explained: ‘This caused an argument and I ended up going to the restaurant with a friend of mine.’
She added that the man was discouraged because she went to the fancy eatery without him.
He was also reportedly “sulking” because she wouldn’t change her plans to spend time with him and get pizza with the boys.
However, she claimed that the youngsters are extremely ‘destructive’ and overbearing, reasoning that the pair had already damaged her iPad, which she eventually had to repair.
The unruly children had already broken the woman’s iPad and smeared her favorite bag. One of the boys was even disruptive while attending an important work meeting from home
“My favorite bag has a disgusting stain on it from when they touched it with ice-soaked hands,” she added.
The woman further explained that her partner only recently moved in with her and his sister asks her to care for the children bi-weekly or more, even if they both work.
On one occasion, her sister-in-law gave only two hours’ notice before dropping one of the boys off while the couple worked from home.
The youngster, who was with them because his brother had a football match, was running while the woman had an important meeting.
Complaining that her partner could not control the boy, she wrote: ‘Cousin kept opening my office door while I was at work. I locked the door. He kept hammering on the door as he ran around.”
She ended the message saying, “I love that he is close to his family. But I think there is a limit to that and I can’t deal with it anymore.’
Parents expressed an overwhelming amount of support for the woman, with a whopping 96 percent agreeing that her position was “reasonable.”
Many urged the woman to get her partner out of the house, with one writing: ‘I would ask him to move again! The work is completely unacceptable.”
Another added: “Well he clearly has no respect for you, your home or your belongings.
Parents flocked to the comments to offer their support to the woman, with many urging her to tell her partner to move out
‘I don’t understand why he’s still there! If you want to continue the relationship, you will need separate living arrangements.”
Others pointed out that her partner had issues with boundaries, saying, “The problem isn’t the fact that his sister occasionally asks him to babysit his nephews.” It’s that he can’t say no. He has to put you first.”
One person commented: ‘He can either take them out or start saying no. He is not allowed to have them while he is at work and cannot supervise them.’
One person praised the woman for remaining steadfast in her plans, writing: “I’m so glad you went out there, I would have done the same!”