My partner went on a boys’ night out and booked an Airbnb to stay in, I’m worried he’s cheating but people say I’m controlling

A woman has been called ‘controlling’ after she shared her concern that her partner was cheating when he booked an Airbnb for a birthday night with friends instead of staying in their shared flat.

Taking on the British parenting platform Mumsnether partner was going on a night out with his two friends, he said they wanted a bigger space than their studio apartment to party.

She went on to say that she found it “a little weird” since the Airbnb he booked is only a few minutes’ drive from their apartment.

Many were quick to comment with some saying it ‘seems very reasonable’ to book a seat for his birthday.

The post read: ‘Think it’s weird DP (dear partner) booked an Airbnb and didn’t just stay at our apartment?

A woman wondered if her partner was cheating after he booked an Airbnb for a night with friends instead of staying at their shared flat (stock image)

“I can’t tell if I’m massively overthinking this and my mind has just gone to cheating and staying the night with another woman. It’s typical that I’m really paranoid and not because he has a history. It just seems pretty weird.

“We own a studio flat which we’ll obviously be upsizing to when we can, but for his birthday he wants to spend a night with his two best mates, I assumed he’d be staying with us, considering that I knew he was expecting him and I had planned something for me to do that night (we’re doing something together on Friday night) so I’m not there so he’ll have the place to himself.

“He’s actually rented a two-bed/bathroom place and told me it’s because there’s more space so everyone can move around and sleep comfortably there. Is this normal?

“My mom said why doesn’t he stay in the empty place he owns and I have to agree.

‘Yes, it’s not big, but it’s enough to have a few close friends. He says he doesn’t want to feel claustrophobic and the place he rented has outside seating etc. £120 Mind!

‘Am I being unreasonable in thinking it’s a bit strange? It’s literally in our town too, like a few minutes drive, so he’s paying £120 to be minutes away from his empty house? Is this scream suspicious?’

One person wrote: ‘I don’t think it really is. There will be more space. Two more toilets. £120 isn’t that much these days. I assume they are spending a night inside. If so, three in a studio would be tight.

Taking to the British platform of parents Mumsnet, she explained that they live in a studio apartment he has a night with his two friends, therefore he said that they wanted a bigger space.

Many rushed to the comments with some saying it ‘seems so reasonable’ to book a seat for his birthday

This way they apparently get a bed/sofa to themselves. If he was cheating, surely he would only need a bed?’

Another said: ‘Sounds perfectly reasonable to me. Unless they’re college students, it’s perfectly normal for adults to want space.

“Renting an Airbnb for a birthday with friends couldn’t be more normal and reasonable.

“I think your view is odd, and if he hasn’t done something in the past, then to look at this as suspicious and possibly cheating neg is completely unfair and borderline mean.”

Someone else said: ‘No, I’m with him on this one. I assume if it’s a studio apartment it’s basically one big living/sleeping area. I can understand why this really wouldn’t sound like fun for the 3 of them.

“I would happily pay £120 for a bigger flat and separate rooms and a nice outdoor space rather than being in one room all evening and then sleeping in the same room in floor.”

While others suggested that her boyfriend was actually ‘attentive’ so that their flat was not left in disarray.

A fourth wrote: ‘Where in the world are 3 people supposed to sleep/relax in a studio apartment?

“Surely it makes plenty of room for them to reserve elsewhere so that all the men have enough room? Why that suspicious scream am I so confused?

‘£120 to rent a two bedroom property per day/night is extremely cheap. I really don’t understand the problem tbh.’

While others suggested that her boyfriend was actually ‘attentive’ so that their flat was not left in disarray.

One person said: ‘It’s not suspicious, it’s attentive. You really want his two friends to all go in, no privacy, pizza everywhere? And believe me men are not comfortable sharing a double bed to sleep.’

Another agreed saying: ‘So where would you be tonight too? maybe he’s being considerate, instead of having his friends over and you having to find somewhere else to stay, he’s doing it so you can stay at your place for the night!’

While someone else said: ‘He sounds considerate (both to you and his friends) and fun. His night sounds great – go away and good friends, no PARTAAAAAY or retreat.

‘You seem quite controlling. What does your ‘ordinary paranoia’ look like? Has he ever done anything to make you think he might cheat?’