My partner was invited to a wedding and I wasn’t – I’m mad but people say I’m wrong to feel snubbed
A British woman was displeased to discover that her partner had been invited to a friend’s wedding and she had not.
The unnamed woman revealed on the parenting forum Mumsnet that she was annoyed to discover that she had not received an invitation to attend the wedding party as plus one from her partner.
She explained that she had been with her partner for nine years and would not invite half a couple to a wedding without inviting the other person.
According to the poster, her partner was also not happy about the news and told her that he would discuss the matter with the couple-to-be.
While some forum users were sympathetic and agreed that it was rude to invite someone to a wedding and not their partner, others argued that couples are not “jointed at the hip” and that the woman was not entitled to an invitation .
A British woman was disgruntled when she found out her partner was invited to a friend’s wedding and she wasn’t (stock photo)
In her message, the woman explained that she had known both the bride and groom for years and was shocked to discover that the wedding invitation was only addressed to her partner.
She explained that the only reason she could think of for not being invited was that the groom had been dating her cousin and cheated on her.
“I would never imagine inviting part of a couple to a wedding,” she added.
In another post, she revealed that her partner was not happy about not being invited and said he would talk to the couple about it.
While some Mumsnetters agreed with the poster that it was rude, many respondents felt that the woman should not feel entitled to an invitation just because she is the man’s partner.
One of them wrote: ‘My husband was invited to his school friend’s wedding. I was not. I thought it was really strange too, but reasoned that maybe they would each have a ‘school friends table’ and the list had to end somewhere?’
“Weddings are expensive and they don’t owe you an invitation,” added another.
“Their wedding, their choice,” said a third.
The woman, who has been with her partner for nine years, said she wouldn’t think of inviting half a couple
It’s their wedding. They get to choose who goes,” one wrote.
Another agreed, writing, “You don’t owe an invitation.”
Some people shared examples of times when they or their partner went to an event alone, and they were fine with that.
One of them wrote: ‘I have been invited to a wedding without DP. He doesn’t know them because they are a good work friend. Just to say hello. Friend has a small wedding so costs. Other work friend is single, so we’re each other’s pluses. Dear partner not bothered because he doesn’t know them. Very glad I don’t have to be my taxi.’
Another added, “I’ve been invited to several weddings without a DH. This is where I am in a relationship with the bride or groom but not him (school friends/work friends etc). As said above, weddings are expensive and not everyone can afford to double the cost of their ‘friends table’ by including OH’s who don’t know them or each other.’
“I’m going to a wedding, my DH isn’t invited, only partners are invited if they are friends of the groom and bride. I’m very happy with the situation as my DH wouldn’t know anyone if he went,” one said.
Some people said the couple didn’t owe the woman an invitation, and some added that they and their partners went to many weddings without each other.
“You guys aren’t on the hip because you’re a couple, it’s perfectly acceptable to still treat people like individuals!” But I agree it’s hurtful,” one said.
Some people sided with the woman and agreed that it was rude not to invite her.
It’s very rude. I doubt my dear husband would ever go alone,’ someone said.
‘I hate this. If you can’t afford to have both at the wedding, don’t invite one,” another added.
Others agreed that it is rude to invite someone and not their partner, and that shows a lack of manners
“Ultimately it’s their choice, but I’d be outraged if DH even considered going without me (unless I didn’t know the person or something, or maybe when there were Covid number rules in play),” they added please.
“It happened to us before and DH said he won’t go. An invitation magically appeared for me,” they continued.
“People have no manners,” said another.
‘Very rude. It is better not to invite both. Your partner or you should ask if there [was] printing error,” said another.
“People who say their marriage is their choice have probably never been snubbed like this before,” one suggested.
“It’s rude and shows a lack of manners. No wonder OP is confused. Decent people don’t do this. It would never cross my mind to invite someone and not their other half,” they added.