A woman has divided opinion after she asked whether others would wear an engagement ring their partner bought for an ex.
Taking to British parenting forum Mumsnet, the bride-to-be revealed she already has an engagement ring that she loves, but then she noticed the sparkler her partner bought for an ex that he hasn’t gotten rid of yet. .
She said that while she prefers her own ring, she was very impressed with the “beautiful and sparkling” piece of jewelry and asked if it would be “weird” to keep it for herself and put it on her other hand. wear.
Some agreed that it would be fine if her partner had no problem with it, but others suggested it could be seen as ‘greedy’ or ‘graspy’.
A woman wonders if it would be strange to wear her partner’s ex’s engagement ring as jewelry (stock image)
In her lengthy post, she revealed that she and her partner were in their 40s and had been in a serious relationship before.
He had bought a ring to give to an ex-partner, but they broke up before he had a chance to actually propose.
She wrote, “Fast forward to now, I have a beautiful ring on my finger myself, we are about to get married, all is well. I knew he hadn’t managed to get rid of the old engagement ring, I don’t think it was for sentimental reasons, I was just too busy with kids!
“We discussed it today, I asked to look at it, and it was beautiful. Not as nice as mine, and not my style, so I wasn’t jealous at all. But it is so beautiful and sparkling. He was going to sell it, but also said if I wanted it, I could, and now I think…
Her Mumsnet post (pictured) described the situation in detail, explaining that the ring had no sentimental value to either party
She asked on the forum whether it would be strange to “keep and wear another woman’s rejected engagement ring?”
‘Is that weird? Scary?’ she wrote. ‘I would wear it on my other hand, the middle finger, it’s a single diamond on a gold band, so involvement, but not overly so.
“Will it be a reminder of a lost love for him, even if he’s put that part of his life behind him? Will it also be a reminder to me of my own history and expectations?
“Basically, will this ring be a curse, or is it just a nice piece of jewelry and I should stop overthinking it!”
Many forum users said they would feel comfortable wearing the ring, and said the poster did not need to avoid it.
One wrote: ‘I’d keep it if you don’t need the money. You lose money if you sell it. If you do sell it, you can also use the money to upgrade your ring.”
Another said: ‘It’s just jewellery. If you like it, wear it.”
In a similar vein, another respondent wrote, “If I loved the ring, I would wear it. It doesn’t seem logical to me that some people would be bothered by that. It’s his ring. He never gave it to anyone else and you like it.”
A minority of users said they would wear the ring if they liked it, and they didn’t think it had any sentimental value
However, the vast majority of respondents said they would not wear the jewelry; one of them even called it ‘graspable’.
One said: ‘I wouldn’t wear it if it reminded him of her.’
Another added: “I think it might be bad luck.”
Meanwhile, another user suggested the poster risked becoming ‘greedy’ by wearing the piece.
She wrote: ‘Let him sell it. Don’t be greedy. This ring was intended for his other love and was bought with her in mind.’
The majority of respondents felt that the poster should not wear the ring – because it could be bad luck, or it could be seen as ‘greedy’ or ‘graspy’.
A more superstitious user added: ‘I definitely wouldn’t wear that, bad history and atmosphere. I wouldn’t even eat to try it on (maybe watched too many horror movies).”
But for a more pragmatic respondent, the idea of wearing an item of clothing bought for someone else just wasn’t fun.
They said, ‘There’s no way I would wear it…why would I want a symbol of his love for someone else on my finger. I would sell it.’
For another Mumsnetter, the idea of wearing the piece seemed a bit greedy.
She explained: ‘No, it feels a bit grabby to me, I would let him sell it, it’s his money, he can do whatever he wants with it, I don’t really get the whole’, you’re entitled to a portion of the money “or.”