I learned my mum was a horrible bully the minute I got engaged… and her behaviour only got worse from there

A young woman has been left fuming after her own mother forced her to organize a grand wedding and then selfishly micro-managed the entire process.

The young bride said she had always wanted to run away, but her mother made it very clear she would never accept that.

Disguised as an ‘act of service’, the mother’s demands included being a bridesmaid, choosing the wedding dress, walking her down the aisle and throwing the bachelorette party.

The bride admitted that she thought her mother was her best friend, but it wasn’t until she reflected on her behavior that she realized she was a bully who had been manipulating her all her life.

Taking to Reddit, the bride said she regretted not being a bridezilla and standing up to her mother from the start.

She explained that she first noticed red flags when her mother chose to buy her wedding dress.

She forced herself to try on her dresses from the expensive rack and then complained about how much they cost and how much she does for her daughter. But the real drama happened when the wedding day arrived.

“Can anyone guess that my mother would steal my wedding?” she wrote.

Revealing her mother had appeared in a ‘very sexy’ Shein dress with long slits down both legs.

She also had her hair dyed for the big day and was “more dressed up” than the bride when she arrived to “help her get ready.”

The problem was that she apparently had no intention of helping her daughter get ready.

“She came to me and asked me to take pictures of her, but she didn’t take any of me,” the bride complained.

She then ignored her daughter and grandchildren, whom she had volunteered to help with on the big day.

The bride said she was then 45 minutes late to her wedding venue and had yet to put on her dress when she arrived.

“Instead of my mother following me to have our mother-daughter moment, she went up to my distracted brother and scared him by ripping his daughter out of his hands,” she said.

‘I waited another five minutes before realizing this was my wedding and I don’t care if she missed her moment, and proceeded to put on my dress. I started completely sweating and hyperventilating at that point.

‘My husband’s cousin came in, helped me into my dress and provided a fan and water. My mother came in afterwards, clearly upset, she missed her moment but kept quiet.’

Her mother then walked the bride down the aisle, clinging to her so tightly that she stood on the ball-like wedding dress.

Then at the after-party, which the couple held in lieu of a reception, the bride’s mother refused to babysit her grandchildren, despite promising that this would happen when the event was scheduled.

The couple made no other arrangements for the children because the bride’s mother was eager to care for them and give her children “a night off.”

‘The words ‘I should have walked away’ rang in my ear. My mother always said how angry she would be if we ran away if she heard there was a wedding,” the bride said angrily.

The young woman tried to ignore the marital drama, but that didn’t work when her mother called a week later to complain about her brother.

The bride said her mother complained that the young man had “held his daughter with me” and that was why she missed the mother-daughter moment at the venue.

“She tried to lie and throw her own child under the bus. My little brother is going through so much and she tried to throw him under it. This made me realize that my mother does this to me too. All those years she said to me about my brothers. She’s playing us all off against each other,” she said.

‘This was the wake-up call I needed. “I always thought my mom was my best friend, but she was always my biggest bully,” she added.

The bride said she can’t remember significant parts of her wedding day and has no idea what her husband looked like when he saw her walk down the aisle because she was so worried.

The bride also said she always imagined getting married in a leather jacket and cargo boots with just her and her husband, and wished she had put her foot down.

“At the end of the day, all that matters is that I get to marry my husband,” she said.

People were furious with her.

“Girl, it ain’t gonna fix it, but take your man, get the style of clothing you want off a $100 rack, grab your combat boots, grab your leather jacket and take some awesome ‘wedding pictures’ for YOU and then post them everywhere , smile and enjoy,” said one.

“You don’t wish you had been a bridezilla. You wish you had run away. Of course you have to cope with a mother like yours at some point, but it doesn’t have to be over a wedding. said another.

A third said: ‘Yuck this sucks, I’m sorry. Glad this is the wake-up call you needed. Now you can rebuild your relationship with your siblings, enjoy your husband and arrange a photo shoot of exactly what you want.”