A bride-to-be has revealed her mother altered her wedding dress without her knowledge because it showed ‘too much cleavage’.
The unnamed woman took to Reddit to share her frustrations with her mother for changing her dress without contacting her.
She asked for ‘support’ from people on the internet after her mother changed the neckline.
The bride said that when she saw the change, she became furious and told her mother she would change the dress back.
A bride-to-be has revealed that her mother altered her wedding dress without her knowledge because it showed ‘too much cleavage’ (dress pictured before the alteration)
The unnamed woman took to Reddit to share her frustrations with her mother for changing her dress without contacting her
It led her mother to label her “ungrateful.”
Post to the Wedding Dress subreddit, she revealed that her mother had tried to talk her into buying another dress after seeing how low the neckline went.
However, the bride-to-be refused and asked her mother to support her decision.
But it seems that’s when she decided to take matters into her own hands.
Before getting into the details, the bride said she “wished she was joking.”
‘My mother altered my wedding dress in a way that I specifically asked her not to do. She told me I was showing too much cleavage and that I should hide it,” the post read.
“I said I was fine with it and didn’t want to change the dress multiple times and even texted her about it.”
But her mother refused to listen and changed the dress by moving the neckline up.
The bride then became furious and texted her mother to let her know how upset she was.
“I sent her a message telling her that she had betrayed my trust in a major way and that because of this I wasn’t sure if I wanted to trust her with her future grandchildren as I couldn’t trust her with my wedding dress,” she said. said.
And instead of apologizing, the bride’s mother hit her daughter.
“She responded by telling me that I was ungrateful for the work she and my father put in and that they had failed me as parents,” the bride explained.
“She said she covered the entire cleavage by hand, which I think is impressive.”
Although the bride commented that the dress looked ‘fine’, it was not what she ‘wanted’.
“I told her I would alter the dress if possible or buy a new dress,” she added.
The bride noted that while her mother paid for the wedding, she would rather run away than deal with the constant battle.
Posting on the Wedding Dress subreddit, she said her mother made the change so the dress wasn’t so revealing. Pictured is the dress before it was altered
At the end of the post, the bride-to-be asked if she was being “reasonable” and asked for “reassurance.” Pictured is the dress after it has been adjusted
At the end of the post, the bride-to-be asked if she was being “reasonable” and asked for “reassurance.”
In a later comment, she also revealed that she and her partner wanted a “really small” wedding but were “steamrolled” by her mother who booked the venue for them.
“Also, further context is that she (changed) the location because the original location was too stressful for her and she has been super manipulative/emotionally abusive my entire life,” the bride wrote.
People flooded the comments to defend themselves and support her decision to shoot her mother.
“It seems like you have to go for super low contact anyway. Also, seek therapy, I don’t mean that as an insult but because you grew up in an emotionally abusive home,” one Redditor said.
Another person added: “Honestly I think you’re underreacting. Your “normal meter” is probably broken if you have had to deal with your mother’s behavior all your life and have seen others bend to her will or otherwise experience her tantrums. Normal mothers don’t do this.
‘If parents behave like this, you have to make it very clear that you are no longer their minor child. I would say that your mother has lost her right to the joys that other mothers of adult daughters experience. That means she immediately goes on an information diet. Don’t accept money or help from her as there are clearly strings attached. I think you’re right about not letting her babysit your future children. She won’t respect anything you tell her, such as naps, feeding times, dietary restrictions, etc.
‘And that is the core of the problem: your mother does not respect you as an adult fellow human being. She changed your wedding dress and your venue! She is extremely controlling and it is clear that what you want comes last, if at all,” she added.
Someone else wrote: ‘Did she seriously move the application?’ Forget the wedding and fly to Hawaii so you can have a nice day and not have to deal with her. Throw a fancy party for friends when you get back and send her a bill for the dress. ‘
Another user added: ‘Just because she worked hard to completely ignore your wishes doesn’t mean she was right or had the right to do that. Don’t feel bad if you’re mad at her, she was way out of line! My mother is also a guilt tripper.
People came to her defense and supported her decision to shoot her mother
“I’m sorry your mother is taking your wedding and making it about her. Hopefully she doesn’t show up in a white dress too because she feels like it’s her day.”
“You’re not exaggerating, she betrayed your trust and I would feel the same way,” one user wrote.
Someone else wrote: ‘Please distance yourself from her after the wedding. If you don’t, she will destroy your relationship. I don’t know how much she helped you with this wedding, but I think this was all a lesson for you. She crosses boundaries and will try to take control of your life.’
Another user wrote: ‘And this is why elopement exists. You’re not overreacting, but probably underreacting. Go far, far away from these people.’
One person wrote: ‘Take control of your life and run. Tell your mother that the change in clothes was the final straw. It’s actually quite simple. You will have to deal with the consequences, but why wouldn’t you want to? When you’re an adult, act like it.
‘Good luck. I hope you don’t let your mother ruin your day. If you do, she will ruin the rest of your life too.”