My husband pressured me into having a baby I didn’t want – I’ve lost my career and I resent him for it

A mother has revealed she feels ‘trapped’ after being ‘pressured’ by her husband to have a child she didn’t want.

The 31-year-old woman from the US took to Reddit to express her dilemma, admitting that she had become angry at her husband for ‘pushing’ her to become a parent – despite a mutual decision they made to be childfree to stay.

Posting anonymously to a throwaway account, the woman described her frustration on January 9 on the popular subreddit, R/AmITeA*****e.

In the afterthe mother explained that she and her 33-year-old husband have been married for six years.

Before they got married, the woman explained that she and her husband had made a “clear agreement” not to have children because she “never wanted to grow older” and initially thought he felt the same way.

However, she claimed that her husband “started to change his mind” four years into their marriage, which started with “little comments” like “Wouldn’t it be nice to have a little one running around?”

She continued, “Then it became serious conversations where he said he couldn’t imagine his life without being a father.

“I told him I still didn’t want kids, but he kept saying, ‘You’d be such a great mom!’ or “You might feel different if it’s yours.”

Ultimately, the woman revealed that she “gave in” because she “didn’t want to lose her marriage” due to their different views on having children.

The woman, who is now mother to a seven-month-old baby, admitted that although she loves her child, she “can’t let go of the feeling” of feeling “trapped” as her career has since taken a back seat and she feels “constantly exhausted.”

She added, “My husband, on the other hand, is thriving. He loves being a dad, but works long hours, leaving most of the parenting to me.”

‘I recently told him that I am having a hard time and feel like I was being pressured into it. He got upset and said I was being unfair because I ‘agreed’ to have the baby. He thinks I should just adapt and stop dwelling on what I wanted before.”

The woman concluded by asking fellow Redditors for clarity on whether she should feel “guilty” for harboring resentment towards her husband for pressuring her into making a decision that she was “clear that she didn’t want it’.

The post has since racked up 1.3k comments, as a host of Redditors empathized with the mother, while others chillingly warned her: ‘Resentment will eat you alive.’

One person wrote: ‘If the man really wants children while the woman doesn’t and she ultimately agrees, that agreement should be on terms that A. Her career, if she has one, will not be affected B. He will pay 50% of the costs for all parental duties and C. He will pay for childcare.’

Another said: ‘I’m so sorry you gave in. Now it’s up to you to demand that he do his share of parenting.

“Tell him that you’re not going to neglect your career anymore, and that he’s going to have to make some sacrifices for the child he wanted. In your place I would go wild with resentment.”

A third wrote: ‘Women really need to stop giving in under these circumstances… it would have been better if they had lost the marriage.’

Another said: ‘It’s 2025 not 1965. Both parents should share responsibilities and care for the child. This benefits the child and the marriage. Your husband needs to do more.”

However, one person warned: ‘People who long to have children are not compatible with people who never want children. They are downright incompatible and incompatible.

“It’s a bigger problem than money, career, extended family, personality, religion or other issues.”

Another wrote: ‘He got what he wanted, has little change in his routine, his job remains unaffected and he doesn’t seem to care how you feel. NTA, but grudges will eat you alive. Take back your life and what you wanted for it.”

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