Wife who doesn’t share a home with her husband reveals the highs and lows of living in separate homes – while insisting it’s the ‘secret to their happiness’
- Bianca Turetsky, 43, married her husband, Peter Bach, in September 2021
- Since they got married when she was 42, she says she’s already “built her own life”
- The couple kept their own home, and she insisted it made them stronger
A woman who doesn’t share a home with her husband has revealed the highs and lows of living in separate homes – while insisting it’s the “secret of their happiness.”
Bianca Turetsky, now 43, married her husband, Peter Bach, in September 2021 – when she was 42 – meaning she had already “built her own life.”
After getting married, she decided she wasn’t ready to give up her Brooklyn apartment, where she had lived for more than a decade, saying it felt like “part of her family.”
Her new husband had similar feelings about his own stay in Manhattan.
The newlyweds eventually decided to both keep their homes and live separately from each other.
A woman who doesn’t share a home with her husband has revealed the highs and lows of living in separate homes – while insisting it’s the ‘secret to their happiness’
Bianca Turetsky married her husband, Peter Bach, in September 2021 – at the age of 42 – meaning she had already “built her own life.” They are seen at their wedding
After tying the knot, the couple (seen with Peter’s son) decided that neither of them were ready to give up their apartment, so they decided to keep their home and life separate.
And while it certainly came with his fights, Bianca insisted in a recent essay for the Today show that the decision only made their relationship stronger.
“Peter, a widower, came into our marriage with a teenage son and an adorable schnoodle. I had a studio apartment and a temperamental cat,” she wrote.
And while it certainly came with his fights, Bianca stressed in a recent essay for the Today show that the decision has only made their relationship stronger.
“How could we make this marriage something that worked for all of us? No one would be happy following the traditional script.’
‘But why did we have to live by old conventions? Why couldn’t we make it up as we moved on? Who says what a good marriage should look like?’ she asked.
Bianca explained that another reason for their decision not to move in together was that Peter, as well as his teenage son, suffer from severe cat allergies – which meant she would probably have to choose between them and her lovely pet, Cleo.
“They are severely allergic to cats. Like the throat-clogged kind of allergies. [That mean] she could never be at his house,’ she continued.
“I had no plans to live a life without her – no wedding ring was worth giving her up.”
Bianca explained that when she and Peter “realized they didn’t have to follow what everyone else was doing,” their romance “deepened.”
Bianca explained that when she and Peter “realized they didn’t have to follow what everyone else was doing,” their relationship “deepened”
And Bianca (seen at her wedding) now believes that separate homes are the “secret to their happiness.” She added, “This is not what I expected the marriage to be like. It’s so much better’
And she now believes that segregated homes are the “secret of their happiness.” She added, “This is not what I expected the marriage to be like. It’s so much better.’
The author explained that when she tells others about their “unusual living arrangements,” she finds that most people respond with “envy.”
“I like to think they start imagining what their own room or apartment might look like,” she added.
“Maybe they’ll start remembering what it was like to eat cereal while watching reality TV, and dance around in their pajamas like no one was watching. Because on those nights when I’m home alone in Brooklyn, I do all those things.”
While Bianca and Peter have gotten quite used to the 38-minute travel time separating them, she said Peter was currently looking for an apartment that was “a few metro stops closer” now that his son was on his way to college. They don’t plan to move in together any time soon.
“Maybe in a few years I’ll write a follow-up essay from my cozy sleeping loft on why you should live with your partner and the dangers of long-distance marriage and the single girl’s guide to dealing with an older cat,” she said. closed.
“But I’m pretty sure that won’t happen.”