A woman was stunned after she was slapped with a £20 per person bill after enjoying a dinner party at a friend’s house.
Going to the UK parenting platform Mumsnetshe explained that her friend texted her after the meal seeking compensation.
The woman said that before she received the text message, she had already invited her friend and her partner to return the favor, and brought a good bottle of wine.
She said the steaks from the butchers they ate must have been expensive, but added that she still wouldn’t think of charging anyone after the event.
Commentators sided with the woman, labeling her boyfriend’s behavior as “outrageous” and “incredibly rude.”
A woman revealed on Mumsnet that her friend invited her to dinner and then texted her asking her to pay £20 for her meal (stock image)
She explained, ‘Paying for our own food – dinner party! We were invited to dinner with a friend. Brought a bottle of good wine, we would never go empty handed.
‘Good food, but they messaged us after asking for money for each person! I thought this was crazy and I would never ask anyone to pay for their food if I invited them!
“Am I being unreasonable to be a little annoyed?” We’ve already agreed to have them with us in a few weeks and I’m not asking them anything!’
Many rushed to the comments, saying her friend is “incredibly rude” and her behavior is “unacceptable.”
One person wrote: ‘That’s horrible behaviour!!! What’s wrong with some people?!’
Another said, “Outrageous behavior and incredibly rude.”
While another agreed, saying, “That’s incredibly rude.” If they couldn’t afford to host, they should have asked everyone to bring a plate of food.
Or say, come over and we’ll get a takeaway, but would everyone mind paying for their own share. But asking for money afterwards is just crazy.’
While a fourth said, “That’s incredibly rude. I would be absolutely terrified to know someone so close.”
She took to the UK parenting platform and explained that her boyfriend had texted her after the meal seeking compensation
Many rushed to the comments saying her friend is “incredibly rude” and her behavior is “unacceptable”
Explaining further, the woman wrote in a follow-up post, “Exactly my thoughts!
‘They had nice steaks from the butcher etc. I can imagine they were expensive. But still – I was pretty miffed!
‘I wouldn’t think of ever doing that. I’ve had friends in the past when I was a student and broke and I’d just make a big stew and tell everyone to bring a bottle! But it wouldn’t occur to me to text anyone afterwards!!’
In yet another follow-up post, she revealed, “We were very invited! They had just moved and were eager to host in their new apartment.
Asked for just over £20 each. I assume that was all the food they cooked, shared by all of us. we really enjoy their company, they are good friends. It’s just this I can’t get over…”
Many rushed to give advice to the woman, although some suggested that she cut off her friend completely.
Many rushed to give advice to the woman, although some suggested that she cut off her friend completely
One person wrote, “I’d be tempted to answer something sassy, but to keep things cordial and keep your friendship (if you want to), maybe reply something to that effect?:
Thank you for coming to eat with us, we enjoyed it! We brought the wine as a gift but we didn’t realize it was a BYOF (bring your own food) event and didn’t expect to be charged for our food. How about having dinner at mine on the x instead?’
“Did they invite you or did you invite yourself more or less without meaning? If that’s the case, and it’s happened several times in the past, then maybe they’re pointing to something.”
Another suggested, “Just text back and say the wine costs x so I’ll take that off and not bother coming to ours because you guys aren’t the kind of people we want to be friends with.”
Others suggested they had experienced something similar with friends asking for money for weddings and birthdays
While another said, “I think I’d reply with ‘please tell me you’re smiling.’ You know what, I’m not sending you the bill after dinner and then we’ll call it quits.’
Others suggested they had experienced something similar with friends asking for money for weddings and birthdays.
One person said, ‘Wtf? I wouldn’t have the guts! It’s just weird! My parents just received an invitation to a wedding where they have to pay to attend! If you can’t afford a seated meal wedding, plan a cheaper wedding! I have no idea how some people function.’
Another said: ‘I was recently invited to a 50th birthday party but the invitation said it was £17.50 per person.
“I declined, as did most of my friends who were invited. It wasn’t in a restaurant, the party was in their own house and the rash request for cash was quite astounding. Asking for money afterwards is even more ridiculous.’