A woman has revealed she thinks it’s “impossible to have conversations” these days after she left two friends offended with “well-meaning comments” this week.
Go to the parenting platform Mumsnetthe British mother explained that she was stunned to have been “attracted” to disposable comments by several friends in recent days.
She asked other users if she “lost it” or if people get offended easily these days.
People were divided, some suggesting she needs less “sensitive” friends, while others saying she should consider giving birth.
The women explained, “Can I just see if I lose it?” Twice this week where I got busted for really well-meaning comments that we took the wrong way and I’m flabbergasted.
A British woman has revealed she thinks it’s ‘impossible to have conversations’ these days after leaving two friends offended with ‘well-meaning comments’ this week (stock image)
“Friend one sent me a picture of her new haircut. I replied: I like the new color very much. Are you happy with it?
“The answer I got was, ‘Shouldn’t I be? What’s wrong with it? Why are you even asking me that? Tell me what you really think.’
Friend two – we were talking about something that happened in the past and I said, “You seemed happy about it”.
“Reaction “Seemed? I’m glad about it. Did you think I was pretending?” Am I being unreasonable or is my use of the English language really bad and offensive?
“Both friends are genuinely annoyed and I have no idea why.”
Many suggested that her friends sounded “weary” and were easily offended by claiming they are the problem.
One person wrote: “They sound tiresome and out to be offended. Ignore would be my advice. I don’t see anything wrong with what you said. My teen acts like this. It’s irritating, but expected in teenagers, but not adults.’
The British woman took to the parenting platform and explained that two ‘well-meaning’ comments were misunderstood by several friends
Another wrote, “Woah… you have some touchy, paranoid friends. KBA with that. Tell them to calm down.’
While someone else wrote, ‘It’s them, not you! You sound sweet, care about how they feel. I’d like to have some friends like you!’
However, some people suggested that it might be the woman’s way of conveying her words.
One person said, “It kind of depends on the context, but I think I could find ‘are you happy with it?’ a strange reaction to a picture of my new haircut, it kind of sounds like you’re testing the waters to see if your girlfriend realizes her new haircut is horrible.
Many suggested her friends sounded “tiring” and were easily offended by claiming they are the problem
“The second is just odd and sounds like semantics.”
Another wrote: “I really like the color, are you happy with it?” implies to me that the most beautiful thing you could think of was the color, you don’t like the rest.
While someone else said, “I think it’s all in the delivery.” You could say “Ooh, that looks AMAZING – I love it! Are you happy with it?” In a voice that suggests they must be.
“Or you could say, ‘Well, I like…the color. Uh…are you…happy with it…?’ in a voice that suggests “because I wouldn’t be.”
Similarly, you could say “You seemed happy with it” in a voice that suggests “You were delighted – it was lovely to see” or “You put a good face on it, but I wonder if you are really happy could have been? About that? Really?”.
“If two of your friends, who probably wouldn’t be your friends unless they were reasonable and nice people, feel hurt by similar comments on your part, you may accidentally say it the second way.”
However, some people suggested that it might be the woman’s way of conveying her words
The original poster added, “It was a quick text. There was no harm in it. I really like the color.
“Even judging by the responses, it seems that some people don’t take things for granted and overanalyze little things and assume things are implied that aren’t.
“It’s exhausting to have to look at every word. It’s so annoying and unnecessary.’
The original poster added that the posts had “no badness” and said she found it “so annoying” to “constantly look at every word”