My fiancé won’t remove the matching tattoo he got with his ex who he’s still in touch with – should I cancel the wedding or am I being controlling?

A bride-to-be has divided opinion by revealing she may be calling off her wedding because of her tattoo.

The woman, 24, recently took to US social site Reddit to share a post after about her concern and reveals her 28-year-old fiancé's insistence on keeping a matching tattoo he shares with an ex-girlfriend he's still in touch with.

Five years ago, he got a matching set of wrist tattoos with his ex, with whom he discussed marriage, but the relationship ended when she cheated on him.

He still keeps the tattoo as a reminder of their time together and doesn't want to have it removed, and Reddit users urged his new partner to reconsider marriage.

However, others had a different opinion and said she shouldn't try to control what he does with his body.

The befuddled bride-to-be told Reddit, “We got engaged a year ago. I've seen the tattoo before and thought it was a little strange, but was still fine with it until I found conversations between my fiancé and his ex-girlfriend six months after we got engaged.

“He said every time he looked at it, it reminded him of her and the physical scar she left on him. He asked if she had hers removed and then I found out she has the same tattoo.

“They then talked about the fact that in a way they will always be part of each other's lives.”

Feeling 'uncomfortable', the distressed 24-year-old asked her boyfriend to remove or cover up the tattoo. makes her feel like she is 'sharing him with another woman every day'.

The couple have had a lot of arguments as a result and she now wants to put their wedding plans on hold, insisting: 'I can't marry a man who has a tattoo that reminds him of another woman.'

One user said: 'I wouldn't be happy with this, why does he want to keep a tattoo that reminds him of someone who cheated? It sounds like he still has feelings.”

The people of Reddit quickly came to her rescue and one of them asked, “I mean the tattoo sucks, but the conversations he has with his ex are even worse. Isn't that the real problem here?'

Another said: 'Why is he talking to his ex 6 months after you got engaged, is that okay with you?

“I think you have a boyfriend problem. You shouldn't rush into marriage because it sounds like you still have a lot of things to sort out before you make any commitments.”

Another said, “Girl the problem isn't the tattoo it's the fact he still talks and focuses on his EX. You'd be a fool to marry him.'

Although you didn't seem to see anything wrong with the tattoo at first, you said, “Don't bother asking for it as long as YOU pay for it to be removed or covered up.”

If you can't or don't want to pay for it, let it go. Whether you pay or not, if he refuses, you still let it go. His body is his to decide.”

Another echoed similar sentiments, saying, “Do you really think removing a tattoo will change his possible feelings for this person or for you?

“You're the asshole because you shouldn't try to push this relationship to the point where someone has to undergo medical treatment to have something removed to save the relationship you think you have with this person. '

Another berated her for trying to “control his body,” telling the woman, “It's part of his past.” If it bothers you, you can get a special tattoo from him.'

And a fellow commenter agreed, saying: I understand it's a problem, but it's his body and his right. You cannot and should not force someone to change their body for your convenience, and the fact that you have often argued with him makes you right. more of an a*****e.”