My fiancé bought me a cheap engagement ring and I know he can afford more
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A woman is disappointed after her fiancé proposes to her with a cheap engagement ring, even though he spends extravagantly on himself.
The anonymous woman attended the British parenting forum momsnet to explain that the ring “looked cheap as jewelry,” and she couldn’t help but feel disappointed.
She admitted that she doesn’t usually wear jewelry and that her expectations were low, but she was still dismayed to discover that the ring was made of sterling silver and cubic zirconia, which she described as “basically cheap.”
Online users flooded comments saying the gesture “doesn’t bode well”, while some have said he could simply be “clueless”.
An anonymous woman took to parenting forum Mumsnet to explain she was disappointed in her ‘cheap’ engagement ring (file image)
The woman explained, ‘So recently engaged… well, 2 months or so… I hate to admit it, but when I saw the ring my immediate feeling was disappointment. It looked cheap as costume jewelry and was not what I expected.
‘I don’t usually wear jewelry in general, so my expectations for a ring were low. I tried the ring on and it was a little big on me. He said he would resize it for me…so it’s been 2 months and no mention of ring or fix.
‘Today out of curiosity I investigated the seal of the ring. He says sterling silver cubic zirconia. Basically cheap…
“I know an engagement isn’t about money, but I know you can afford so much more and are extravagant at your own expense…
She admitted her expectations were low, but said she was upset when she learned her fiancé “can afford a lot more.”
The woman later added that she spoke to her fiancé but he was ‘very defensive’, describing her as ‘ungrateful’.
‘Am I entitled to be disappointed or should the price of the ring matter?’
She later added that she talked to her future husband about the ring, but he just labeled her “ungrateful.”
“I’m not materialistic at all, but I feel like an engagement ring is something that should be special in some way… I’ve seen similar rings on Amazon for £20,” she wrote.
People were quick to comment to tell her that she had a right to be disappointed and that the cheap buy gave away her personality.
Online users flooded the comments with messages of support telling her to tell him that she had a right to be disappointed.
One said: ‘If it was all I could afford I wouldn’t bother.
“But if he can afford more and spends more on himself normally, then I’d worry that he’s part of a pattern of behavior where he thinks he’s more financially deserving than you are.”
Another wrote: “This to me shows that he feels he deserves good things but you don’t which really doesn’t bode well.”
One said: ‘Cripes, cubic zirconia and sterling silver? maybe this is the sign of things to come? Money tight, love tight.
While another Mumsnetter simply wrote: “This ring is not a lifetime promise.”
Another acknowledged that some couples are trying to save money, but the ring still wasn’t enough, saying, “If I was on a tight budget and discussed keeping the cost down, that would have been really sensible.”
‘However, this seems like he’s being strict.’
Others said the price of an engagement ring isn’t what matters and your fiancé might just be ‘clueless’
Meanwhile, some people said that price shouldn’t matter when getting engaged, writing: ‘An engagement ring is a symbol, nothing more.
My wife would have killed me if hers cost more than a few hundred pounds and for people to spend thousands (like on a wedding) on something like this is obviously your choice, but insane in my opinion.
“The fact that you ‘need’ to look at the price says that perhaps you value financial security rather than the love of the man himself.”
Another comment suggested that the fiance on the poster was simply unaware of the meaning of the ring, writing: “Without much context, you may have no idea about engagement rings and then felt hurt when told you did it wrong.”
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