A mother has revealed she 'kicked out' her daughter, who has six children and lives with her rent-free, after finding out she had another baby on the way on Christmas Eve.
The Reddit user, who goes by the name Miserable-Day-8244, posted her sticky situation on the platform on Wednesday, writing in the subject line: 'AITA (Am I The A**hole) because I kicked my daughter out of my house because you're pregnant?'
She explained her message that her daughter is 27 years old, her children are 'between 10 and 11 months old', and that they have three different fathers, one of whom is her fiancé who also lives in the house.
Her daughter receives financial support from two of the children's fathers and the mother lets her live rent-free so she can “save money to get a house,” but she doesn't “believe” the couple does that. .
A mother has revealed she threw out her daughter, who has six children and lives with her rent-free, after finding out she had another baby on the way on Christmas Eve
She explained in the post that the daughter works part-time, while her fiancé — whom she has been with for five years — is a full-time chef.
And despite the mother letting them live rent-free, the daughter still asks for financial help for her phone bill.
Her daughter has been living with her mother for a year and a half because she was evicted from her previous place of residence.
In terms of home layout, the daughter's children share the two upstairs bedrooms, although the mother admitted it's “still crowded for six kids.”
The mother has also remained helpful when it comes to raising her daughter's children.
“I put up with loud voices all day and woke up at different hours to take care of the children because I love my grandchildren,” she wrote.
'I have never complained to my daughter, because I think family is very important.'
The mother's other children are “all grown” and her youngest child “moved away four years ago.”
She opened up about the ordeal on Reddit in the Am I the a**hole? subreddit (stock image)
The mother and her husband “had hopes of renovating” and she admitted that she “didn't expect them to be alive.” [there] so long.'
On Christmas Eve, the family gathered when the daughter announced she was having baby number seven – and the mother admitted she wasn't happy about the news.
'Everyone was excited, but I felt fear. That would mean another child coming into our house with not much space,” she continued.
'I looked at my husband and saw that he felt the same way. We discussed it later and decided we should ask them to move.”
A few days later, over dinner, the mother told the pair that they had two months to find a place 'because' [they] cannot have another child at her home.
“My daughter started crying and said she couldn't believe I was going to throw her out on the street because she had a baby – that this was completely unfair and not enough time,” the mother added.
'I told her I was sorry. It was painful for me too, but these were alive [conditions] were impossible.'
Her daughter asked for “more time,” otherwise she said “she would go to court” to sort out the situation.
The mother told her that “newsflash: the court only gives you 30 days.”
She recalled her daughter telling her that the “grandchildren would become homeless because [she] was selfish.'
The mom asked Reddit users “AITA (Am I The A**hole)?” and her post received more than 11,000 votes and 1,000 comments
The daughter then posted a Facebook message inquiring about rooms she could rent out, writing that “she is pregnant and has nowhere to go and her family doesn't care about her.”
Out of desperation, the mother asked Reddit users, “AITA (Am I The A**hole)?”
Her post received more than 11,000 votes and 1,000 comments.
She further explained her situation in her reply to a comment, writing, “I had been trying to set boundaries and constantly ask my daughter when they planned to move after their youngest was born. [and] if they were to get their own place.
'They really needed more space, to which my daughter said 'Yes' [and said] they watched several times and even went to a few open houses.
'Then my daughter said they couldn't do that and that she was on maternity leave, which ultimately resulted in her being fired.
“She only got this job a few months ago [that] she was told that my husband was pressuring her to work because they were harassing us for money. My problem is that I've always been too nice.'
Most Reddit users sided with the mother, arguing that she “wasn't the asshole.”
One person wrote: 'NTA, but it would have been better to set boundaries a long time ago.
“Your daughter and her boyfriend need to grow up and maybe this is a life lesson for them.
“I agree that it would be good to extend the deadline a bit, but then compromise by charging rent and, for example, saving it for them for a future rental property.”
Another person added: “NTA. Your daughter has been having babies since she was 16 years old. If she hasn't figured out how not to get pregnant by now, she never will.
“Anyone who tells a family member that their family can live in their house rent-free [that] they would take them to court after they were asked to move, and it was never intended to be a temporary arrangement.”
'NTA. If anyone is selfish here, it's your daughter. Who in their right mind has so many children that they can't feed and house without help,” a third person wrote.
“I'm sorry for you, and I hope you can stay strong. Start by sending your daughter and Baby Daddy three to social services to see what resources are available to them, because the parents' ATM should have been closed a long time ago,” someone else added.
Most Reddit users sided with the mother, saying she's “not the asshole.”
One person commented: 'NTA. I can't believe you housed another eight people for a year and a half.
'Your daughter's courage is truly extraordinary. My jaw still drops after reading your message three times.”
Another user agreed: “NTA. Two months is reasonable, while they should have already saved for their own place.
'She's 27 and has six, soon to be seven, children, and not an anxious teenager who's pregnant for the first time. They know what causes pregnancy, but they still have more children that they can accommodate themselves.
“It would have been good if more boundaries had been set earlier, but at the same time, I doubt you thought they would have more children and expected them to extend their free stay at your home.”
“This kind of constant stress that your husband and you are under is literally shortening your life,” said another commenter.
“Your daughter will land on her feet because people like her always do that. The lifeboat sinks under the weight. You've done enough [and] given enough.
“For anyone who knows, your relationship with your other children is also a casualty of this failed launch.
“To save your health and your marriage, I strongly encourage you to sell your house and move to another city. Start with a clean slate. You only live one life. Please don't let it be a regret.'
One Reddit user commented: 'So they've been living rent-free for 18 MONTHS (!!!!) but haven't saved any money for a new place? N.T.A.'
'NTA. I am absolutely stunned reading this. This is done with SERIOUS right. It's not your responsibility at all,” another added.
'I certainly wouldn't do it. It's not your problem to solve. Take them out. You are being used in a huge way. I'm very sorry.'