A friend has been left ‘distraught and jealous’ after discovering her boyfriend of three years had slept with his terminally ill girlfriend as a ‘last wish’.
The 22-year-old woman claims that a mutual friend spoke about her partner’s infidelity during a group holiday and she has been struggling emotionally ever since, especially as the friend passed away in March 2022.
The woman explained the situation on Reddit, sought relationship advice and said her boyfriend went broke after his friend’s death.
“I hate myself because I get angry inside when he talks about her. I can’t express my jealousy because she’s dead anyway,” she wrote.
“This jealousy is eating me up. They had totally emotional sex because of her condition. I don’t even know who took the initiative. It probably looked like she didn’t want to die a virgin.’
Hundreds offered advice, most of whom agreed that there are “no excuses” for cheating on a partner.
A young woman, 22, discovered her boyfriend was cheating on her with his terminally ill friend. She has been jealous ever since and contemplates breaking up with her. The friend passed away last year (stock image)
“My friend didn’t tell me he had sex with his dying friend. We were together when it happened. He is still depressed about her death. I’m jealous and don’t know what to do,’ she began.
‘I’m sure he was never attracted to her. Furthermore, they have never had a relationship. However, she was secretly in love with him. She was the little sister of their group of friends. This incident occurred in late November or December 2021.
My boyfriend and I had never had sex then. To clarify, he didn’t lose his virginity to her, but she did lose her virginity to him.”
She described their relationship as “other than perfect” and he’s always been a “good boyfriend,” even at his lowest points.
“We were also best friends before we ended up together. I think it’s unfair to be so black and white about this,” she added.
After reading other Redditors’ comments, the girlfriend confronted her boyfriend about his infidelity and shared a detailed update.
She said her boyfriend didn’t say anything because he didn’t want to break up and is now “disapproving” of his own actions.
“He didn’t want to hurt me (but he did because he wasn’t talking until now). The guilt is part of why his mental health is terrible,” she said.
“My friend said if he could, he would have asked my permission then. He would have respected my decision and not done it. Though part of him would also feel guilty if he didn’t fulfill his friend’s wish when she dies.
The friend also admitted that he only slept with his friend “because she was dying” and claims she made the first move.
‘Under other circumstances he wouldn’t have done it. It wasn’t romantic for him,” she continued.
“It was an impulsive event due to strong emotions. He couldn’t ask my permission because it happened right at that moment.’
“My friend didn’t tell me he had sex with his dying friend. We were together when it happened. He is still depressed about her death. I’m jealous and I don’t know what to do,” she began (stock image)
“I think it’s so confusing that sleeping with him was one of the dying girl’s dreams. Maybe she just didn’t care anymore because she was going to leave us anyway. I’m still conflicted,” the friend wrote.
After hearing his side, she is still contemplating whether or not she should end their relationship.
Hundreds of people took to the comments to share their thoughts on the matter, most of them criticizing the friend.
‘Dude what? I would do many things for a dying friend’s last request, but disrespecting my relationship and cheating to give him/her one last thrill is out of the question,” one wrote.
“A friend who would ask this as someone’s last wish is a *** friend,” said another.
“Yes, he would have respected your wishes if he could have asked you…that’s why he didn’t, right?” added a third.
Someone else said, “I don’t think he’s that innocent when you try to brainwash yourself into thinking. He had an opportunity, took it, and then regretted it, as most cheaters do.”
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