One woman revealed that her best friend fired her as a bridesmaid because she didn’t want a pregnant bridesmaid to distract her.
Take to reddit, the 27-year-old woman who is believed to be from the UK explained that she was asked to resign out of the blue two weeks ago after speaking about starting a family.
The bride told her she doesn’t want a pregnant bridesmaid to distract from her on the big day, which she wants to be a celebration of “one big life event and not two.”
She wrote, “I was upset and had to leave the table for a moment to calm down. During this time she told my husband, “We thought that’s how she would react.”
“When I got back I said if I was still a pregnant bridesmaid (I thought she just didn’t want me to be MOH), to which she replied, ‘Well, we actually thought you guys would just come over as guests.’ ‘
A woman revealed that her best friend fired her as a bridesmaid because she didn’t want a pregnant bridesmaid (stock image)
The woman said in her post that the bride was trying to “dress it up” as if it was to her advantage, arguing that a pregnant woman shouldn’t start lifting heavy or get stressed out about wedding arrangements.
The friend also added that she would have wanted her bridesmaids in fitted dresses and would not have wanted to pay to change them for a pregnant woman, despite the post’s writer saying she would pay for the dress herself.
She continued, “The fact that she said it as a decision and not a discussion with myself or my husband to see how we felt shows that she had already made up her mind.
“She literally literally said, ‘It’s the one day it’s all about me and I think being pregnant would get my attention as a bride.'”
The 27-year-old woman took to Reddit and summarized the situation, explaining that everything was fine until two weeks ago
The woman and her husband offered solutions to all the bride’s problems, although they were not expecting a baby, but the bride would not budge.
“She kept repeating the main reason, which was that my pregnancy would be a distraction from her on her wedding day and that she wanted her wedding day to be just about ‘one big life event and not two.'”
Many rushed to the comments in favor of the woman, saying that the bride was out of step
“Small addition: she was one of my bridesmaids and I would never have thought to exclude her if she got pregnant.”
Instead, the woman and her husband were asked to come as guests, but the bride still suggested that she would be happy if her boyfriend hosted the bachelorette party – which the woman no longer intended to do.
The post concluded, “I want to emphasize that I’m not currently pregnant so she’s making this decision based on a hypothesis, which is even more of a shock and confusing to us!”
In response to the post, one person commented, “I’m going to be honest, it’s people like your “friend” that make me hate weddings. It’s insanely self-centered to think the world revolves around you just because you’re getting married.”
However, one commenter said she will also ask a pregnant friend to step down from the bridal party, but insisted it is out of sheer concern for her well-being.
“If you still want to go, I would make it explicitly clear that you will absolutely not be helping in any way other than making your appearance,” they added.
Another person said, “Looks like you’ve been saved from a lot of hassle, she’s going full bridezilla.”
A third said, ‘This is not a true friend. I honestly wouldn’t even attend the wedding and I’d let it fade.”
A fellow commentator echoed the same sentiment, saying she “dodged a huge bullet by being barred from the marriage of madmen!” Consider it a victory that you are not dealing with this Bridezilla and exclude her as a friend. She’s not a real friend.’
And another advised her to “decline all invitations” and skip the big day, adding, “No gift.” No card. No contact.’
However, a commenter revealed that she will also ask a pregnant bridesmaid to step down from the bridal party, but believes she has a good reason.
“I’d love to keep her in my bridal party, but she’d be heavily pregnant like she was due on delivery day, just after or just before,” she said.
“I’d rather she take the time to take care of herself and rest instead of coming to a party where I’m wearing nothing but a white dress.”