My adult kids resent me for being a stay-at-home-mum because I can’t ‘help them financially’: ‘I never saw this coming’
A woman who sacrificed a career to prioritize her family claims her adult children “resent” her for choosing to be a stay-at-home mom.
The woman’s children say her decision to put them first meant she could now not support them financially and pay for small luxuries.
She vented her frustrations on Reddit, and more than 1,300 people said her kids are “spoiled” because they’re of working age.
“I NEVER saw this one coming. My grown adult children (18-20) say they blame me for being a stay at home mom because I can’t help with their lives now financially,” the mother wrote.
“They say things like, ‘You’ve never had a job or gone to school, so you don’t understand,’ and ‘The least you can do now is get a job to help me out,’ along with lots of other comments. like, “You should have worked all these years.”
Stay-at-home mom claims she was criticized by her children for not being able to support them financially (stock image)
The mother said her top priority has always been the “safety and well-being of her children above all else.”
She said she gave up her career, the chance of a college education and her freedom to raise her children, which was her choice at the time.
“I thought this was for the best, and financially we managed just fine,” she said.
But now she has to deal with the careless comments of her young adult children.
“I wish my choices hadn’t hurt them. That was the opposite of what I thought I was doing. I hope one day they will understand,” she added.
Hundreds of Redditors flooded the comments in support of the devoted mom, and some shared their own experiences.
“Mommy, there will always be something you did wrong in their eyes. If you had worked, they would probably complain that they didn’t see you enough. It’s not about you, it’s about them,” one wrote.
“I don’t understand why they feel they are entitled to it or have an expectation that they should receive financial support as an adult. That has nothing to do with whether you had a one- or two-income household,’ says another.
A third added: “You need to set limits for your children as they grow up so they don’t feel they are entitled to what they had before.”
“Children don’t have the means to be thankful. They just eat your food and break your heart. Your kids are just too preoccupied with themselves right now to understand,” wrote another.
Someone else said the early young adult years were the “worst.”
’18-22 were my hellish years. I said so many hurtful things to my parents,” the Redditor said.
“They most likely see some of their friends’ parents giving them money and so they are jealous/embarrassed/outraged and blame you,” another pondered.
See this for what it is, it’s still emotionally immature, brand new adults working with some of these issues. Just don’t take it personally.”
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