My abusive ex has turned my daughter against me

A mother has shared her devastation after three years of not seeing her daughter, through no fault of her own.

The woman claims that her abusive ex-partner has forced her daughter to cut off all contact by turning her against her mother.

He has told her that I am evil. that I’m wrong Dangerous to be around, when in reality, he is the danger’, the heartbroken mother tells Metro.co.uk.

‘No one is listening to me, or wants to help. It is every mother’s worst nightmare.

When the woman first met her former partner, he seemed caring and considerate. They quickly moved in together, but after a few months things changed.

“At first, I saw it as him caring about me, things like asking me to get on a certain train after work so he could pick me up. But if he missed a train (which was often the case with my busy, high-profile job), he’d turn nasty.

Now I realize that he was forcing me to depend on him. He was controlling me.

Still, the woman was determined to make it work: they both wanted a baby, and she believed a boy would help.

After two miscarriages, she became pregnant with her daughter. But that’s when her ex started to get aggressive, trashing her stuff every time she got frustrated or didn’t get her way.

“He first attacked me when our daughter was a little girl. The final straw was when she did not attend the perpetrator course that she had promised in exchange for her dropping the charges. I decided to quit.

For nearly a decade, they shared custody of their son. But then her daughter started getting bullied terribly at school to the point where she would wet herself from stress or end up in the hospital due to anxiety.

‘My ex suggested that we transfer her to another school, closer to where he lived, hundreds of miles from me. He suggested having her during the week and me on the weekend. I agreed. My daughter’s health was my number one priority.’

Over the next few years, contact slowly began to erode and then stopped altogether. Finally, the young woman refused to visit her mother.

“I was worried that his father had whispered in his ear how horrible he was. How I was not a good mother. Her testimony before the Family and Juvenile Court Counseling and Support Service and social services contained many of his father’s lies about my home not being safe, that his stress from bullying was his fault. mine.

Thus began a two-year, £30,000 battle in family court as the woman fought to see her son.

“I collected advice from 19 domestic abuse professionals, all of whom said my ex is controlling her.”

The woman’s ex agreed to family therapy, but after just one 20-minute session, he called it off.

That was the last time I saw her. I started a second case but the judge rejected it. The Met Police referred him to another force because he did not live in London. They are not interested.

‘I’m broke, but as soon as my daughter turns 16, I can fight on her behalf under the coercive control law. I want to prove that she cannot make an informed decision about her relationship with me because she has been manipulated by her father, an abuser.

‘Nobody listens to me, and I’m desperate. But I will never give up my fight to get her back.

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