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Mum heartbroken after husband refuses to have another baby, says it would ‘end their relationship’: ‘I’d rather have a dog’
- A new mom wants another baby but her husband doesn’t
- The couple have a son together, but he would rather have a dog.
- Melbourne writer Laura Mazza offered her advice
A mother-of-one has shared her heartbreak after her husband said he doesn’t want another child.
The couple have been together ‘for years’ and share a son. But every time she mentions the idea of having more children, her husband ‘shoots’ her and ‘gets mad.’
As an alternative, last year he suggested adopting another dog, which made her upset.
Seeking advice from Melbourne writer and mother of three, Laura Mazza, the anonymous woman told her kidspot: “He really doesn’t understand how much another baby would mean to me, and he refuses to entertain him.”
To make matters worse, her husband says that having another child would ‘end their relationship’.
A mother who wants to grow her family says her husband doesn’t want any more children and has approached Melbourne writer Laura Mazza (pictured) for advice. The woman claims that her husband suggested that they buy a dog in her place.
After the birth of her son, she suffered from depression, which is likely a contributing factor in her decision not to want more children.
Laura offered her advice on the situation and encouraged the woman to understand her husband’s concerns.
“Practicing empathy and putting your feet in your husband’s shoes will help you get to the deepest concerns you have without him shutting down,” Laura said.
As a last resort, some may consider ending the relationship, which is never an easy decision, and couples must consider whether this complicated option is worth it.
When it comes to talking about having more children with your partner, marriage therapist Amber Trueblood said parents.com couples should create a safe space to talk and understand each perspective.
“Parenthood is hard on a marriage, and for some couples, the thought of doing it all over again is not exciting, it’s terrifying,” said Ms. Trueblood.
“Perhaps one partner feels financial pressure or fears passing on a genetic abnormality, leaving them unable to imagine the benefits of having another child.
“Or a couple fears raising their only child without siblings because of their own very special sibling relationships, leaving them unable to imagine raising an only child in a happy and complete way.”
He recommended being patient, practicing gratitude, and considering couples therapy.
New parents with child issues or couples considering more babies can find support through PANDA by clicking here.