A woman is called “selfish” because she tells her husband he has no say in the way she gives birth, but many think she is right.
The 25-year-old is seven months pregnant and has had an easy pregnancy medically, but her husband doesn’t seem to agree with any of her decisions.
“My husband is a good man, but he is stubborn and sometimes a know-it-all,” she revealed on Reddit.
The man kept interrupting her as he discussed the birth plan and advocated what he thought was best: early induction and a C-section.
‘I told him to stop and that this was mainly a conversation between me and my nurse. He stopped, but got blown up and irritated the rest of the appointment.”
A woman is called ‘selfish’ because she tells her husband that he has no say in the way she gives birth
The woman explained that she wanted to give birth in a hospital birth center because she wants a “relaxed, home-like birth,” but also wants access to medical care in case complications arise.
After the appointment, her husband was ‘furious’.
‘In the car he got angry and said he was just trying to help and that this was his baby as much as mine. I told him he was right, we are equal parents, and once the child is out of me, he gets as much say as I do.
‘But until then, he has no say in how I deliver because I am the patient and this is essentially a medical procedure.
“His job during labor is to be my support, advocate for me when needed, and watch our child come into the world.”
Her husband did not take her comment well and started shouting at her.
‘He told me it was a mess and that I was selfish. That this pregnancy is not about me and that I am not more important than him. “This isn’t the first time we’ve had this conversation, but it’s the first time I’ve been so blunt about it,” she said.
She also revealed that her husband was now giving her the silent treatment and refused to talk about the issue until she agreed with him.
Many were shocked at how “unreasonable” the man was.
“I would discuss the silent treatment,” said one. ‘It’s not acceptable behaviour. Is this how he goes to the parent? It is not acceptable for a partner and certainly not for a child. You have a bigger problem here than just a birth plan.”
‘Keep in mind that you can kick him out of the room if he stresses you out while you’re in labor. Stress would be bad for both you and the baby,” another recalled.
But others criticized her for “blocking” her husband from the discussion.
“You have golden womb syndrome,” said one, referring to some mothers’ belief that their child’s interests are synonymous with their own.
“Probably wise to get your husband involved and be fully on the same page in a mature way about how things should be done,” said another.
“Leaving your husband out of conversations is not a good start to being a ‘family’,” a third wrote.