The therapist secretly reveals the common issues your friends and family are struggling with
- The therapist shares things that people are embarrassed to tell friends
- She said sexless marriages are very common
- As well as feeling relief after a death and not wanting to be a mother
A therapist has shared three things that many of her clients tell her they are afraid to talk about with their friends and family.
Emma Mahony, a mental health therapist, said there are some things people keep secret despite so many struggling with the same problem.
She said sexless marriages, people who feel relief when someone with a long-term illness dies, and mothers who don’t enjoy motherhood are much more common than anyone thinks.
Emma, who is from the US, gave the “scoop” about what people talk about in therapy that they don’t share with anyone else.
“I know this because I’m a therapist, so I know all these things, but I know a lot of people don’t talk about it among their friends,” she said in an online video.
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Mental health therapist Emma Mahony (pictured) has shared the ‘scoop’ on what people talk about in therapy, but not with family and friends, including sexless relationships
“Hopefully this will make you feel a little less alone.”
First, Emma said that not having a sexual relationship with a partner is not as rare as people realize.
“There’s a lot of shame around it and a lot of people don’t know how to handle this with their partner and don’t know if they even want to work on it with them,” she explained.
“[They]feel like they can’t talk about it with their friends because sex is such an integral part of a relationship, but it’s completely lacking in theirs.”
Second, the therapist said that many people feel a sense of relief after the death of someone who had a long-term illness or spent years in care.
Emma said it’s not rare not to have a sexual relationship with a partner: ‘(They) feel like they can’t bring it up with their friends because sex is such an integral part of a relationship’
She said she meets many mothers who feel guilty for not enjoying motherhood anymore: “Sometimes they don’t want to be a mother and wish they could turn back time and not have children.”
“A lot of people struggle with the feeling that they shouldn’t feel relief now that they don’t have to care for this person anymore,” she said.
Finally, she said she meets many moms who feel guilty about not enjoying motherhood anymore.
“Sometimes they don’t want to be a mother and wish they could turn back time and not have children,” Emma said.
“People are afraid to tell this to other moms because it’s the best thing in their lives, but they also hate it so much sometimes.”
Emma’s talking points struck a chord with many viewers who said the issues needed to be talked about more and they needed to be ‘normalised’.
“I need the mother to speak out about hating motherhood,” said one mother to which a second responded, “I love my children, but when I see pregnancy announcements for them, I never say congratulations because I want just say ‘success’.’
“The mother hits hard. Motherhood has been 100 times harder than I ever imagined. I’m so exhausted. It’s so unforgiving,” wrote a third.
“Normalize missing the person you were before having kids while also loving your kids unconditionally,” another mom agreed.
More parents said they felt “embarrassed,” “ashamed,” and guilty because they didn’t always enjoy having kids, but Emma’s clip made them feel like they “didn’t lose their minds.”
Others involve hiding their lack of sex and complicated feelings after someone dies for fear of judgment.
“Can we stop pretending our sex life is great when it’s not?! We all go through dry spells, but everyone “gets it all the time,” one viewer commented.
“The sex is so real. I feel like so many people are lying about that and sex shouldn’t be a chore,” another chimed in.
‘My grandmother was a carer for my mentally ill grandfather for 17 years after a car accident. The first thing she said after he died: I will finally rest,” a third recalled.