Men name the compromises they’re not willing to make in relationships: ‘Total deal-breaker’

Single men have revealed the relationship ‘deal-breakers’ they don’t want to compromise on.

Whether or not a partner wants children was a hotly debated topic, while others insisted they couldn’t date a smoker and many saw open relationships as a big no-no.

Some had more trivial answers, saying they could never be with someone who doesn’t eat peanut butter or doesn’t get along with their cat.

One man said he would have to get along with a woman’s family for the relationship to last, and another claimed his partner would have to feel comfortable having girlfriends.

“What is one compromise you are NOT willing to make in a relationship?” asked a curious woman on Reddit and received hundreds of responses.

“A person who likes to cook but can’t clean up after himself,” one man replied.

“If she’s seriously allergic to peanut butter because I’m physically 99 percent peanut butter right now,” another joked.

“I’m not going to get rid of my cat for you,” a third wrote.

‘I have one cat, my parents at home have four. If you come into my life, it’s pretty important in the long run not to have any weirdness towards cats,” another agreed.

Many guys drew the line at open relationships or non-monogamy. Even the mention would cause some to say goodbye to a partner.

‘I wouldn’t even consider an open relationship. I would be out at that time,” said one user.

“If I’m not enough for you, I don’t want it,” another agreed.

One man said he was tired of “spotty text messages” as it indicates a lack of communication and commitment.

Some had some trivial answers, saying they could never be with someone who can’t eat peanut butter or get along with their cat.

“I’m seeing someone now and her texts are getting so vague that I’ll text at 7pm and she’ll respond in the morning. I just don’t understand how someone can say he likes me but sees my text, doesn’t respond and goes to bed. Call me if I’m thinking too much,” he said.

One person said he would view a ‘breakup’ as a ‘breakup’, while another needs to get along with his other half’s family and friends to make it work.

‘I’m going on a break. I feel like if you can’t talk about your problems like adults or just give each other space when you need to, then you’re not cut out for a relationship at all and might as well break up,” one guy explained.

‘In-laws and family/friends in general. When you get married, those people become part of your life, whether you like it or not. You have to find some kind of healthy balance and tolerance to not go crazy,” wrote a second.

“If they don’t put as much effort into the relationship as I do, it won’t last,” a third replied.

‘Lack of accountability. Someone who can’t muster the words ‘I’m sorry’ when he makes a mistake,” a fourth added.

Whether a woman wanted children or not divided many men who had different views on starting a family.

One man said he was tired of “spotty text messages” as it indicates a lack of communication: “I don’t understand how someone can say he likes me but see my text and not respond”

‘I don’t want children at all, and that includes stepparenthood. And smokers. I don’t date smokers,” one user replied.

‘I want to be a father. If you don’t want to be a mother, it won’t work out,” another replied.

One man said he was fine if he already had children, but said this was the only exception when talking to an ex-boyfriend or husband.

“If there are no children involved, you are not allowed to talk to your ex while you are with me,” they said.

“As a guy in a female-dominated field, dropping all my strictly platonic girlfriends. No, that never happens, sorry, not sorry,” wrote another.

While some admitted it was “a given,” they would never tolerate any form of cheating in a relationship, past or present.

‘It’s hard to report cheaters. Even if it was before me,” someone said.

‘This 100 percent. Emotional deception is also real. It’s not okay, you’re not just friends. The number of partners I’ve had to justify it was insane. If you don’t want to cheat sexually, don’t cheat emotionally. It’s painful,” a second commented.