Matthew McConaughey refuses to let being blackmailed into sex as a teenager ‘beat him’

Matthew McConaughey has said he refused to be blackmailed into having sex when he was 15 and drugged and molested by a man when he was 18 to ‘beat him’.

The 52-year-old Dallas Buyers Club star previously shared the harrowing stories in his autobiography, Greenlights, and has now detailed the conversations he had with his father who told him this was not how anyone should be treated.

In Amanda de Cadenet’s podcast The Conversation: About the Men, he said of his parents’ lessons on sexual intimacy and respect: “Well, I had learned, guided by my parents, about respect for a woman, respect for the relationship, respect for sexual intimacy, respect for space.

“My father had always had this when he taught us the birds and the bees, he left me talking about the birds and the bees. “You’re getting so old that you kiss?” and I said, “Yes, sir.”

“And he says, ‘Well, one day it’ll go beyond that day. It’ll probably go where you’re going to get intimate and there’ll be the chest, and there’ll be below the belt.’ I paraphrase, and he says, “It will happen to you too.”‘

He recalled being taught about sexual consent and continued, “And so he goes, and he talks to me, he says, ‘Son, if a man in the situation,’ when he talks to me about a heterosexual relationship, “If you ever find the girl, the woman, hesitate, stop.”

“He even said this, he says, ‘You can even feel them hesitate, and then if you stop, they might go, oh no, no, come on. Don’t. Wait until next time.’ And he was right, I kind of got where it was like, “No, no, no. OK, I’m out.” And say, “Okay, cool. I’m gone.”

Memoir: Matthew shared the harrowing stories in his autobiography, “Greenlights,” and he detailed the conversations he had with his father who told him this was not how anyone should be treated (pictured as a teenager)

The girl said, ‘Oh, well, no, come on.’ And I thought, “No, no, no.” He said, “Trust that you will have another day, if it must be so.”‘

After the blackmail, the actor was able to have some “healthy sexual relations” with girls who were not “ugly”.

He continued: “But I was very clear, again, that wasn’t right, that wasn’t cool, it wasn’t like that.

“After that I got some healthy sexual relationships and girls that I liked and liked, and slowly we got intimate and it was beautiful and awkward, and all those things, but it wasn’t ugly like that.”

When he was molested a few years later, he did not “connect” the two experiences.

Matthew said, ‘I had been taught, guided by my parents, about respect for a woman, respect for the relationship, respect for sexual intimacy, respect for space’ (pictured with his wife Camila Alves in 2019)

The actor revealed that as a teenager he was harassed by another man in his memoir.

Matthew wrote of the horrific incident in which he was “beaten unconscious” by his male attacker at the age of 18.

The Dallas Buyer’s Club star adds that he was “in the back of a van” when the attack happened.

The gold star has had no therapy, but said the people around him have helped him cope with the trauma.

Matthew swore to himself that he would never let the abuse he experienced in his adolescence “fear relationships” or keep him from trusting others.

He said, “I’m not going to be afraid of relationships because my first experience was blackmail. uhh. That’s a deviation. No no. It’s not like that.

“And if I go on — and I won’t be beaten. I go, ‘I don’t let that defeat my trust in people and say, ‘No, I can have a healthy relationship.’ Not negotiable. No.’

He added: ‘It happened. Do I deny that it happened? No. I don’t deny it happened. Ugly. Ugh.

“I still get it, even if I tell you this story, I understand — but am I going to wear that? I chose it, non-negotiable, I’m not going to carry that, taking that baggage into the life I’m going to lead, and how I treat people and how I trust people, and how I look at circumstances and the risk I can take. ‘

Candid: Actor was still able to have ‘healthy sexual relations’ with girls who weren’t ‘ugly’ after the blackmail