Malin Andersson has revealed that her grief is “amplified” at Christmas as she longs for loved ones following the tragic loss of her daughter Consy and her parents.
Consy sadly passed away at the age of four weeks on January 22, 2019, after being born seven weeks premature. Her father passed away from skin cancer 28 years ago and her mother died of another form of the disease in late 2017.
And in a clip shared to his Instagram on Wednesday, the Love Island star, 30, detailed the pain he feels over the festive period, describing it as “an unimaginable kind of pain.”
Heartbreak: Malin Andersson has revealed her grief is ‘amplified’ at Christmas as she longs for loved ones following the tragic loss of her daughter Consy and her parents.
Speaking openly, he said: ‘When people ask me about grief at Christmas, it feels like an unimaginable kind of grief that is amplified at Christmas. And I’ll tell you why.
“Christmas for family, loved ones, having that wholesome feeling of being all together, gathered around the fire, opening presents, sharing fun, laughing, eating Christmas dinner…
‘But if those people aren’t there to share that day with you, it takes all the joy out of you. You have this longing for those who were once here and are no longer here because you say “this will never be the same again” and it stays with you every year.
Malin continued: “So every time Christmas comes around, there’s a little feeling of emptiness and nothing replaces it.
Loss: Consy sadly passed away at the age of four weeks on January 22, 2019, after being born seven weeks premature.
RIP: Her father passed away from skin cancer 28 years ago and her mother died of another form of the disease in late 2017
“I have my little daughter Xaya and I’m celebrating Christmas for her now, but I still miss my mom there, my dad there and having that whole family unit.”
Sharing her support for others dealing with grief over the Christmas period, she added: “But I think we need to understand how people feel when they grieve at Christmas because not everyone will want to celebrate and be in the mood and we have to appreciate and respect it’s.
“And show them our love and support and just give them a hug, a big hug because it’s hard, it’s very hard.”
After thanking fans for their messages of support, the television personality further reflected on his grief when he shared a touching message on his Instagram stories on Thursday as he reflected on his festive season of five years.
Tough: In a clip shared to his Instagram on Wednesday, the Love Island star, 30, detailed the pain he feels over the festive period, describing it as “an unimaginable kind of pain.”
She wrote: ‘My Christmas’ the last 5 years since my mother died.
‘2017 – Mom died on November 25…the following month Christmas was a cancellation. Unbearably painful and surreal. I spent it in New York with my brother and his in-laws.
‘2018: Baby Consy was born on December 23, she spent Christmas in the NICU in Gt. Ormond St of her watching her fight for her life. She then died a month later.
‘2019: I flew back to New York, spent Christmas with my brother and his in-laws again. I loved the environment… but I was suffering in my head the amount of loss it had. It’s never the same without your own family.
Honest: ‘If those people aren’t there to share that day with you, it takes all the joy out of you. You have this longing for those who were once here and are no longer here because you like “it won’t be the same again” and it stays with you every year.
Tough: ‘I have my little daughter Xaya and I’m celebrating Christmas for her now, but I still miss my mum there, my dad there and having that whole family unit’
‘2020 – In times of Covid things were slowly calming down… felt isolated. I flew to Dubai on my own and spent Christmas alone. I tried to avoid it and act like it was nothing.
‘2021 – I was pregnant with Xaya. She suffered from depression and high anxiety, but finally had a great family and loving partner around me. The best Christmas I’ve had since my own family was there. I felt surreal. Overwhelmed with love
She continued: ‘That’s why my emotions are so mixed in this period. This year I have so much love from Xaya but so much confusion from the year before.
Grief: The TV personality reflected on her grief further when she shared a touching message on her Instagram stories on Thursday as she reflected on her festive season of five years
Loss: ‘Constant loss…makes my nervous system respond so strangely; that’s where healing comes in. Intense healing’ (pictured with her mother, Consy)
‘Constant loss…it makes my nervous system respond so strangely, that’s where the healing comes in. Intense healing.’
Last month, Malin opened up again about her grief at this time of year as she reflected on the loss of her young daughter Consy in 2018.
She explained in a long caption that she is currently planning a quiet festive period with her baby Xaya.
The holidays: Last month, Malin spoke once again about her grief at this time of year as she reflected on the loss of her daughter Consy in 2018
She said it’s ‘a strange time of year’ for her as she lost her daughter and mother over the Christmas period while sharing a gallery of sweet snapshots.
She shared a gallery of sweet snaps reflecting on her time with the pregnancy and some moving images of Consy in the hospital.
Meanwhile, during a separate video shared to her Instagram on Wednesday, Malin also shared her advice for rape victims, insisting that being sexually assaulted is never the victim’s fault.
Malin visited 10 Downing Street last month, where she spoke to activist Emily Hunt in support of the Rape Crisis.
Advice: Meanwhile, during a separate video shared to her Instagram on Wednesday, Malin also shared her advice for rape victims, insisting that being sexually assaulted is never the victim’s fault.
Doing her bit: Malin visited 10 Downing Street last month, where she spoke to activist Emily Hunt in support of the Rape Crisis.
In an excerpt from her chat, Emily says: ‘We don’t want to believe that rape happens and if you do, what’s easier? Is it easier to believe that someone would rape someone? Or that someone would lie about it?
To which Malin, who has spoken about her own sexual abuse in the past, replies: “Just know that there is help and there are specific places you can talk to, even if you trust a close friend or family member.”
And just know that there’s no shame or guilt in anything and it’s not your fault, because it shouldn’t be happening anyway.
‘You no longer have to live in fear and you have to have confidence to know your rights and everything you do and that you have support behind you. It is important that you know that now you also have support.’
Chat: In an excerpt from her chat, Emily says, ‘We don’t want to believe that rape happens and if you do, what’s easier? Is it easier to believe that someone would rape someone? Or that someone would lie about it?
Important: To which Malin replies, “Just know that help is out there and there are specific places you can talk to, even if you trust a close friend or family member.”