La Trobe University graduate proposed to at ceremony breaks silence after Clementine Ford blast


EXCLUSIVE: Angry fiancée reveals what she REALLY thinks about her boyfriend taking the stage and proposing to her during her graduation ceremony, after the public moment was criticized as ‘entrapment’

  • Stephanie Bail was proposed at La Trobe University graduation ceremony
  • Her boyfriend came on stage after she accepted her degree and asked her a question.
  • Feminist Clementine Ford said her gesture meant she was ‘stealing her moment’
  • Ms Bail has since said the backlash to her proposal was “absolutely disappointing”.

A woman who was proposed to in the middle of her college graduation has revealed what she thought of the grand gesture, lashing out at the “hate” unleashed on her new fiancé when he was accused of “stealing her moment.”

La Trobe University student Stephanie Bail was accepting her degree in psychological sciences last week when her boyfriend came up on stage and got down on one knee.

The Melbourne university graduate shared footage of the moment the man told Ms Bail “I love you with all my heart” before popping the question onstage in front of guests and fellow graduates.

The moment was widely embraced by the crowd, to a wave of applause and cooing from the onlookers, but her sweet gesture was quickly condemned by feminist commentator Clementine Ford, who claimed the groom had made “everything about him”.

However, the newly engaged Ms Bail strongly rebutted Ms Ford’s assessment of the situation, saying the pent-up ‘hate’ about her partner was ‘absolutely disappointing’.

Stephanie Bail's boyfriend took a knee after she accepted her degree at the La Trobe University graduation ceremony in Melbourne last week.

Stephanie Bail’s boyfriend took a knee after she accepted her degree at the La Trobe University graduation ceremony in Melbourne last week.

“I was celebrating graduating (not my first time) and getting engaged to the love of my life,” she said.

“While I appreciate your concerns, I don’t appreciate you speaking for me nor do I appreciate these wild assumptions about me and my partner.”

Ms Bail asked Ford to remove the video criticizing her proposal because it “doesn’t represent me or my partner.”

In a tirade posted on Facebook last Friday, Ford called the gesture “entrapment.”

She called on men to stop creating female empowerment moments about them and allow women to be ‘brilliant without you’.

‘Stop stealing women’s moments. They don’t belong to you. They are not yours to have,” said Ms. Ford.

‘That is his moment, he has graduated. We don’t know in what conditions she went to university, we don’t know how difficult it was for her, but she did it alone.

Clementine Ford (pictured) criticized a man for

The man was seen stopping the woman, who had just received her degree, from leaving the stage before getting down on one knee and proposing to her.

Clementine Ford (left) slammed a man for “stealing a woman’s moment” after video surfaced of him proposing to his girlfriend while onstage at her college graduation ceremony (right)


Would you like to be proposed to in public and at a time when you are supposed to dedicate yourself?

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‘Why do men look at situations where women have achieved something for themselves, where they are about to receive praise and admiration… and think, ‘you know what? I’m going to make this moment about me. I’m going to do it so you’ll always remember that the day you graduated was the day I proposed to you. That was the most important thing that happened to him that day.”

He also called out audience members who applauded during the proposal, claiming they were giving themselves to ‘property samples’.

The backlash even led La Trobe University to remove the images from its social media page and apologize.

“We made an error in judgment today,” the university commented on Ms Ford’s Facebook post.

Ms Bail said it was not her first time graduating and criticized those who criticized her partner.

Ms Bail said it was not her first time graduating and criticized those who criticized her partner.

“Our graduation ceremonies are all about celebrating student achievement, and this event detracted from that important recognition of our students’ success.”

Ms Ford’s video has garnered more than 1,300 comments, with most Facebook users angered by the public proposal.

‘This annoys me so much!!!! I worked hard to get my degrees and if my partner did this I would be furious. And the relationship would end,” wrote one user.

‘This makes me unreasonably angry, especially for her. I hope he gets his PhD, is very successful, makes tons of money and he ends up in his mom’s basement,” another commented.

A third chimed in: ‘Watching men do this sort of thing infuriates me. They feel so threatened by a woman’s achievements that they feel the need to photograph the moment. He’s weak and pathetic.