Judgmental non parents reveal what they backed down on after having children themselves
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Critics of parents have revealed what they ended up changing their minds about once they had children.
The parents took momsnet to share the things they said they would never do before giving birth, which they ended up doing.
A UK-based poster took to the forum to ask people to share their own experiences, and people revealed a range of things they had changed, from taking their kids to McDonald’s to never lying to them.
Writing the original post asking people to share their own stories, the anonymous poster said: “I have a friend who loves to comment on how all her friends raise their children and all the rods they make for their own backs and how they would do”. It’s different, blah blah.
People have revealed that their ideas about parenting changed after having children (file image)
‘She has a lot to say about everything. I have two children and although she never comments on my upbringing, I often wonder if she does tell her other friends.
“Anyway, my friend just had her first baby (1 month) and she’s already regressed on a few things like co-sleeping etc. I must admit that I am looking forward to the childhood years.
‘What did you have to go back on after having kids you never thought you’d have? Also tell me your funny stories of sensible friends who had children and had to eat all their words!
Among the responses, one person admitted: “I realized that never taking them to McDonald’s was unrealistic… Don’t lie to them – Christmas…”
An anonymous UK-based poster asked people to share parenting ideas they backed on once they had children of their own.
And another added: ‘Screen time. I was going to be organizing healthy activities all the time, obviously. Now I turn on the TV and hide regularly.
Another also referenced television, adding: ‘Young children watching screens. He used to judge parents when he saw children in strollers holding a phone watching TV.
I regularly have to put CBeebies on my phone to prevent my daughter from having mega tantrums in public.
And another respondent said: ‘Letting children watch TV/use devices. My two year old can operate YouTube without help. In my defense, I am very pregnant and never have the sound on if we are in public.
Parents revealed a variety of ideas that they quickly changed their minds once they had their own food, from junk food to screen time.
Meanwhile, another poster revealed that they had a family member who had previously criticized the food, writing: “I have a brother-in-law who used to say horrible things about parents giving their young children chocolate and I used to say wait until you “. have yours
‘Now they use chocolate buttons to put the nephew in the car seat, on the potty, in his pram, in a grocery cart. He also used to comment on screen time, so now it’s chocolate buttons with Peppa Pig on his lap.
Some respondents noted that they had always promised not to use mannequins and had not been able to keep that promise.
Several parents revealed that they had never wanted their children to use pacifiers, until they had them, and now they do.
One admitted: ‘Dummy is the one that comes to mind – my son had one until he was almost 4!
“But I was one of the first of my friends to have kids, so luckily I never made judgmental comments to my friends (only inside my head when looking at strangers’ kids).”
Another agreed, adding: “Dummies. I have no idea why now, but a pacifier saved me after 6 weeks of hardly any sleep. And now I have two young children – screen time. No explanation needed.
This was a popular topic, with another parent writing: ‘Dummies. I was convinced that my daughter would not have one. She was born premature and was very restless. I struggled for 2 months before giving her one and was finally able to put her down for the first time without screaming. They are never needed one.
One of the most surprising ideas a parent had to give up having children was the taste of toothpaste.
And another respondent noted: ‘Most things. Dummies, Screen Time, Sugary Snacks.
“I thought I was going to sleep training from 6 weeks and babies just needed to learn how to cry. I ended up sleeping together because… well, I’m still with my son and he’s 3, so it’s been 6 years since I’ve slept alone.’
On a totally different note, another mom added an unlikely idea she had abandoned, admitting, “Gum flavored toothpaste! I realized that the constant battle over mint toothpastes just wasn’t worth it.
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