JANA’S SEALED SECTION: The women left on the shelf for being beautiful: They’re crucified for daring to even SAY it, but some ladies (and men) are just too attractive to find love. Here are their stories…

Attractive people – don’t you just hate them? I’m kidding, I’m kidding. But it’s safe to say that when God handed out attractive genes, He certainly favored some over others.

And I’ve always thought that these genetically blessed types were, quite frankly, given an unfair advantage in life. They are often put at the front of the line in nightclubs, given driving fines and receive favorable treatment almost everywhere they go.

But then, last year, I was standing in a long queue in a crowded pub with a ridiculously good-looking girlfriend when something happened that was so shocking that it called into question every belief I had about the so-called ‘beautiful privilege’ pulled..

There was a group of older, slightly drunk men standing at the bar. We’re talking about the late forties, early fifties, wearing Bonds shirts and tight jeans in an attempt to look young and fun. (Spoiler alert: They didn’t. It brought “divorced fathers back onto the scene.”)

It was clear these guys were out to have a good time and when they clocked my girlfriend – she’s gorgeous, did I mention that? – they turned into rabid dogs.

Annoyingly, we had to walk past them to get to the bar when the smallest of the ‘gentlemen’ reached out and felt her, creepily telling her to ‘come and sit at our table, darling’. I’m not talking about a slimy brush of his hand, I’m talking about both hands rubbing her sides, from below her shoulders to her thighs, before settling on her chest.

We both froze. She tried to laugh it off and walk past him, but I saw red. I couldn’t believe what I had just seen. The year was 2024 and here was a creep who treated her body like a piece of meat.

I raised my voice as loud as I could and said, “Get your damn hands off her, you filthy creep!” He looked like his eyes were about to pop out of his head. Then he turned to his friends and they all laughed. I could have screamed.

We went to the bar and my friend looked devastated. I continued to deal with the fact that it wasn’t okay and that I hadn’t witnessed such brazen behavior since the 90s. Then I asked, “Do men really still think it’s okay to treat women like that?”

She sighed. It happens all the time, she said. Often in public, and especially if alcohol is involved. I was speechless.

That was months ago, but I still think about that night. Being beautiful may get your attention, but does it really help you find a good guy?

The crazy thing is, I’ve seen this woman struggle in the love department, and it turns out it’s because her good looks turn people off, or they’re just the creepy drunks with inflated egos who are bold enough to make a joke. .

It really got me thinking… Sure, attractive people get a lot of little advantages in life, but when it comes to dating, is beauty a disadvantage?

Another friend of mine is a 6 foot tall former model with a wicked sense of humor. But over the years I’ve reduced her to nothing more than arm candy for men who love showing her off like a toy but never really appreciate her personality.

Not long ago, she finally settled for a normal-looking farmer who was crazy about her, and guess what… he broke up with her because he was jealous of the attention she got from other men when they went out.

So I asked other attractive people to share their dating horror stories with me, and my inbox yielded some very interesting stories…

Lucas: Too hot to be taken seriously

Lucas, a 32-year-old personal trainer, is ridiculously hot. Seriously, when he slid into my DMs my first thought was “jackpot!” He has one of those chiseled jawlines, piercing green eyes, and a gym-sculpted body. He says women often compliment him, but rarely stick around long enough to really get to know him.

Lucas tells me that on a second date with someone he really liked, after a few drinks she admitted, “You’re just too attractive, so I wonder if you’re a player.” Guys like you probably have a lot of options.” Frustrated Lucas says he wants a real connection, but finds that his appearance often makes women question his intentions or doubt his sincerity.

And I have to say, I’ve been guilty of this many times.

Liza: Too ‘chic’ so far

Liza, a widow in her mid-fifties with a well-paying job, tells me she rarely gets asked out because she is beautiful.

‘I’m attractive, I earn a lot of money, have a nice car and have fully paid off my house. And yet I rarely get asked out. And if I do? The judgment!’

She says that in addition to being pretty, she has been rejected by men for being “posh” and “rich” (as if those are bad things!) and that an “ugly bastard” once dared to criticize her because of a stray lip hair .

Despite her looks and success, Liza says her love life has been a complete flop. “Right now, I’m okay with staying single forever.”

Sofia: I thought I was stylish, but men think I’m vain

Sofia, a 35-year-old lawyer, is the epitome of sophistication. Even I was a little intimidated by her Instagram page.

Her striking features and impeccable style make her seem like someone who not only has good looks, but also great taste – something that doesn’t come naturally to many of us.

Still, Sofia has noticed a pattern with the men she dates: they often treat her as if she’s superficial or self-centered, which couldn’t be further from the truth.

Once, a man she was seeing said to her, “I thought you were more into fashion and selfies than deep conversations.” You’re surprisingly level-headed.’ Sofia couldn’t believe it. Why would people assume from her appearance that she lacks depth or substance? It was only then, in her mid-30s, that she realized that her appearance – something she had always considered a blessing – was making it harder for her to build meaningful relationships.

Emma: Men don’t even bother

Emma, ​​a 28-year-old marketing manager, is often told that she looks like a supermodel (and I can confirm that she is indeed a hottie). Her statuesque body, super straight white teeth and flawless olive skin ensure that she receives compliments everywhere.

But Emma couldn’t figure out why her dating life was nonexistent until one day, after a work event, a coworker drunkenly confessed, “Honestly, you’re so beautiful it’s intimidating.” Boys think they don’t have a chance with you.’

‘This explains why I only attract narcissists. Those with a superiority complex who think they are God’s gift to women,” she says. Oh boy, we all know one (or two) of those guys.

Emma realized that her beauty was creating a barrier she never intended. Potential suitors assume she’s unapproachable or out of reach, so don’t even bother trying. One solution is to dress down or look plain, but Emma feels like she is Damned if she does, damned if she doesn’t.

Alex: Mr Perfect is always overlooked

Alex, a 30-year-old architect, has a face and smile straight out of an American soap opera. But despite his perfectly proportioned facial features, the man can’t get himself a date!

A good friend once said to him, “You look so good-looking that everyone assumes you’re already taken, otherwise you’d never relax.” Yep, he’s been labeled a ‘Peter Pan’-in-training…just because of his looks!

Alex tells me that he often reflects on missed opportunities, often noticing that women look at him but rarely approach him. Because he’s handsome, he seems so out of reach that he’s almost on the verge of walking around with an “available” sign around his neck..

Sam*: A famous actor who struggles with the apps

Sam is a celebrity. I’ve changed his name for this article, but trust me, you’ve heard of him. He tells me that because of his fame, he often gets a barrage of questions from skeptical women on dating apps, which is understandable the first few times but quickly becomes frustrating.

“Is that really you?” “Why should you be on the apps?” “How come someone like you doesn’t date a model?” “Why are you on Hinge?”

These are just some of the DMs he receives – and that’s if he’s lucky. If he’s having a bad day, they’ll just delete him or, worse, report him as a fake profile. He assures me that being a successful actor doesn’t mean dating a string of lingerie models.

‘I would like to make an appointment with a real estate agent or a dentist. I like to have a cup of tea and go for a walk.’ He adds that the only apps where celebrities aren’t reported are the kinky ones like Feeld, but says: “I don’t like whipping.”

Listen, I’m hardly pulling out a violin for these terribly attractive people, but hearing their stories does put things into perspective.

Is beauty really a blessing? And is complaining about being too beautiful the last taboo of modern romance? I leave it up to you, but I certainly don’t cancel Botox appointments.