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Singletons rejoice, I come with good news. As many as 105,000 Aussies have been divorced in the past two years. It’s the highest number in more than a decade. Now I know you’re thinking ‘What? That’s horrible!’ But is it, dear reader… right?
No. You see everyone complaining that once they hit their 30s, the dating pool gets smaller and smaller. But now that a new crop of divorced women has entered the market, that is very good news.
Okay, technically it’s not great for those who have to fight it out in divorce courts, and it’s never fun telling the kids, but as a child of divorce I can assure you… it gets better. Who wants to hear mom and dad fight (again).
Divorced men are courteous, polite and so out of the ordinary that they tend to date old-fashioned, says Jana Hocking (pictured)
Now I know that divorced people often have a bad reputation in the dating world, but as someone who has dated a couple, I can say without any doubt that they are an untapped market that is really worth pursuing.
I’ve dated three in my time, and they were all super excited to go on dates again. They were courteous, polite, and so down to earth that they tend to date old-fashioned. We’re talking calling instead of texting to make arrangements, eating at a nice restaurant as opposed to having a drink at a dodgy pub.
If you strike gold, you might even get someone who hasn’t dated for so long, they still think it’s normal to pick you up for the date, rather than just meet at a prearranged place. A certain guy who pops up in the Daily Mail from time to time once sent a Rolls Royce to take me out to dinner. Okay now I’m just bragging but it really made my heart go va va voom. You just don’t see that in modern dating.
And don’t even get me started on the bedroom antics. All I can say is **fire emoji. The guys I dated went wild for a little disco doona action because it’s safe to say they didn’t get much leading up to their divorce.
There’s nothing more beautiful than seeing a divorcée’s face light up at the idea of ”what to get” after being stuck in a passionless marriage for so long. I’m not gonna lie, I felt like a saint. There’s my good deed for the year – please pay attention to Santa.
Think calling instead of texting to set appointments, dining at a nice restaurant instead of drinks at a dodgy pub, and wild antics in the bedroom, says Jana Hocking
Now, of course, there are some things to keep in mind if you choose to dip your toe in the segregated pool, as it comes with its fair share of baggage.
This “baggage” can be in the form of children (yes, they are a blessing, but also something to consider when dating); a bitter look – you know – for being dumped by their significant other; a lack of confidence if their breakup was accompanied by adultery, or often they can get too excited at the thought of being single and want to sow their seed everywhere.
Therefore, if I want to date a divorced woman the right way, I have one rule. They MUST be separated for at least a year. I think two years is ideal. Why? Since they’ve had time to process the divorce, they’ve got their hoeing phase behind them and hopefully let go of the past.
God knows I can’t go on another date with a dude who just got out of a marriage and complains about how their ex screwed them. It’s a date, not a therapy session.
Divorce rates are on the rise in Australia, leading to an untapped market that needs to be explored, says Jana Hocking
Aside from that, once you get over the roller coaster of divorce, they can be truly happy days. The blessing that comes with dating someone who has already tried out their “newbie wife or husband” is that they tend to have learned some solid lessons during their marriage that they don’t want too much of in the next relationship take.
They are more aware of who they are and who they want to be with in the future. They got through those initial arguments about money sex, living arrangements, and they learned how to fight fair. And when you’ve experienced the good, the bad, and the ugly of marriage, nothing really shocks you in the dating world. It takes a lot to ruffle their feathers.
So why not give a divorced woman a chance this holiday season? They sure are very nice.