JANA HOCKING: The new way guys are asking for casual sex… and it left me SHOCKED

Last Saturday started like any normal weekend morning. I enjoyed an epic sleep followed by a little pre-bedtime action that resulted in a heart-starting orgasm, and then lazily went to the kitchen for my first caffeine hit.

I leaned back on my stool and stared into the abyss as I chewed my toast and pondered the events of the coming day. This consisted of a quick walk on the beach with the hound, followed by a petting session before heading to a late birthday lunch for a friend. Oh, how I love the single life.

My phone picked up a text from a newlywed friend, asking if I’d like to pick up some wine. I told him I could meet him before lunch and didn’t think much of it. He replied with: ‘Great! A lot to catch up on!’

Great, I thought. The boy has been dating up a storm and I love doing all the action with him.

Jana Hocking was recently asked for casual sex by a friend

For reference, the last time this guy was single was 10 years ago, when dating apps hadn’t even taken off and people only dated one person at a time.

Well, it’s safe to say he’s taken to it like a fish to water and dating a lot of women. So when I met him for a cheeky summer before lunch, I was engrossed in his stories as he recounted some crazy dates and showed me the profiles of the women he’d been matched with.

Side note: ladies, your profile game is strong! I really need to up my ante.

As we went to leave, he said, ‘I just have to ask you a tricky question,’ and so I sat down and said, ‘Go!’

He then asked me if I would be open to casual sex with him, saying: ‘I know we’ll never end up together, but we can have fun! I just want to make sure it doesn’t affect our friendship before we go there.’

Excuse me… what?

Judging by the gazillion dating stories he’d shared with me, I’d assumed we’d struck up a friendship.

At first I was flattered (he’s a nice guy) but I was shocked so I told him I’d think about it.

Then, after enjoying a few glasses of wine at lunch, I started to get a little bored.

I mean, what made him assume I wasn’t ‘girlfriend material’? Seriously, I don’t know if it’s reverse psychology, but I was suddenly annoyed that he thought it was worth a bit to win and eat before I got sacked.

But on the other hand, I liked that he was direct with his questions. Maybe it’s a good thing he didn’t waste my time with meaningless dates that are really just a ploy to get a joke.

I speak from experience because this is exactly what happened to me recently. I went on three dates with a guy before I got undressed, and you know what happened… I never heard from him again. Except for the random emoji under one of my Insta stories.

I know, chills.

So is there something to be said for those who just put it all on the table. No games, no false promises, just drive it honestly?

At first she was flattered – then annoyed – then decided that her friend approached the awkward question well

After my ego got over the fact that he doesn’t think I’m wife material (rude!), I decided to respect my friend by just being completely direct. It’s not the easiest conversation to have, but he did it in a way that kept it lighthearted and honest.

In the end, I ended up turning him down because I’m currently in my ‘dating to find a partner’ era and, okay, if I’m being completely honest, I’ve already made him a friend with benefits. A girl can’t have two! So while he’s in his ‘shag everything’ era, I’ll be available for any dates that involve cool dating stories, but no clothes to be removed. (Seriously, Jana, keep those clothes on!)

But it gets you thinking… should we be encouraging more open conversations like this? So I think!

Dating is already an extreme sport, so why not make it easier with some good fashion communication. That way everyone is on the same page and no tender hearts will be bruised in the process. Although I can’t say the same for the ego. Maybe I should indulge? Who knows…

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