I’ve been going out with my boyfriend for a year and just discovered he’s using a dating app – how should I dump him?

A woman wonders if she should break up with her boyfriend after her boyfriend discovers him on a dating app.

The furious woman took to the British parenting platform Mothernet and explained that her partner, who had been liking another woman’s profile on a dating app for almost a year, didn’t know it was her friend.

Her friend sent her a screenshot of her friend’s dating profile and on at first she tried to give him the benefit of the doubt in case it was an old profile, but that showed he was “recently active.”

She asked Mumsnet users to help her end the relationship in a ‘classy’ way as she doesn’t want to appear ‘hysterical’.

Many rushed to the comments with their own thoughts, with some suggesting she shouldn’t mention the dating site and say she’s dumping him because he’s bad in bed.

The message read: ‘I’ve been dating a guy for 11 months and had the exclusive chat. See each other regularly, the relationship seemed good.

‘My boyfriend just sent me a screenshot of him on a dating site… so at first I tried to look at it as positively as possible… maybe it’s an old profile… but no, he likes her profile and he has been active recently.

‘I’m so hurt and upset, but I’m happy to say my anger got the better of me! We were supposed to see each other all weekend this weekend, all planned, dinner booked, swimming, lunch, cinema… obviously I’m not going now…

‘Any advice on what to send, I don’t feel he is owed the dignified face to face ending…seriously what an absolute b******!!!

She continued: ‘I don’t want to be hysterical in my message, classy would be good, but also let him know what I have been shown! I’m so glad he’s never met this friend!’

People offered various ways to dump him in the comments, with some suggesting he would start doubting his “sexual prowess.”

Using British parenting platform Mumsnet, the furious woman explained that her partner of almost a year liked her boyfriend’s profile on a dating app, without knowing she was his girlfriend’s partner

People offered various ways to dump him in the comments, with some suggesting he would start doubting his ‘sexual prowess’

One person said: ‘I’d keep it short and sweet… ‘Listen, I wanted to ghost you but realized that would be rude. I need to tell you the truth about why this isn’t working for me. It turns out size DOES matter.”

Someone else said: ‘Combine the suggestions about the bad sex life and the dating site. Bob, you can see from this screenshot that I now know what you’ve been up to.

‘Of course it’s a blow that someone I trusted could be so pathetically dishonest, but I have to say it was actually a relief because it got boring faking all those orgasms.’

A fourth said: ‘Ooo, another good option. Yes, I would go for this. Don’t mention the dating site or anything. Only the text. It’s not me it’s you. You cannot satisfy me, etc., as above. Which made him doubt his sexual prowess. Astonishing.’

Others suggested she should mess with his head and set up fake profiles to match him, while some said she should just ‘ghost’ him.

One person wrote: ‘Oh I would definitely leave it hanging. Create some fake profiles like his profile or whatever

Others suggested she should mess with his head and set up fake profiles to match him, while some said she should just ‘ghost’ him

“As a previous poster mentioned, there was someone here a while ago who did this, flirted with him, made a date, never showed up, etc.”

Another said: ‘What would irritate him most is if you never wrote to him again. You don’t even have to block him, you just never replied to him.

‘If you block him, he knows he’s being fooled. If you say something nasty, he’s full of justifications.

“I would either write that you are not compatible and that you want to end the relationship, or I would just ignore him completely.”

Meanwhile, another wrote: ‘He doesn’t deserve any explanation, photo or anything. If you don’t have the energy for catfish humiliation, just ghost him.’