- The anonymous 27-year-old mother-to-be is insisting that her birth not be filmed
An anonymous mother has revealed she wants to ban her partner from the delivery room if he refuses to back down from his desire to film the birth.
The 27-year-old said that while her partner, 31, is extremely keen to capture the moment, she feels her reasons for not doing so, and anxieties about the opportunity, outweigh his desire to film.
Birth rights explain that while filming births is unusual and maternity staff may refuse to be filmed, NHS Trusts should try to accommodate filming a birth if this is what a couple wants.
The expectant parent took to Reddit to ask ‘AITAH (am I an a-hole)? I feel so strongly about this and I’ve already told him I don’t want him.
“The thing is, filming is really important to him and he got really mad at me for not respecting him why. I’m thinking of not letting him into the delivery room if he doesn’t agree that he can’t film it.’
An anonymous mum-to-be, 27, has revealed she plans to bar her partner from the delivery room for her birth if he refuses to back down from his desire to film the birth.
According to the post, the 31-year-old is enthusiastic about filming the birth – expected within the next two weeks – for family documentation and to help form his memories.
However, the birth half of the couple gave three reasons why she was adamant they kept the cameras away.
She listed: ‘One – I’m probably going to be in extreme pain and vulnerable and I don’t want to feel any more “watched” than I already will during those moments.
“Two – I want him to be fully present with me and every decision we might make and not preoccupied with camera angles.
“And three – I don’t want him to distract or interfere with the birth because others in the room are worried about how their actions will look on camera (me, staff, etc.).
Commenters under the post were on the side or the mother-to-be.
One said: ‘NTA (not hole). Filming someone giving birth is a serious violation of privacy.
“It’s fine if you’re into it, I guess, but if you’re not, it’s a massively stupid move to insult and try to guilt-trip you into changing your mind.”
Another commented: ‘I’m honestly struggling to believe this is something an adult would feel entitled to blow the whistle on.’
In response to this reaction, the original poster came back saying that she had thought that the process of parenting was as much his as hers, including the birth stage.
“But,” she continued, “when it comes down to it, as evidenced in the opinions here, there’s enough vulnerability exposed by my birth (that he won’t experience/risk) that it just needs to be weighed more heavily. .’
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