Inside Aubrey Plaza and husband Jeff Baena’s private 14-year relationship amid his shock death at age 47

Aubrey Plaza’s husband, filmmaker Jeff Baena, was found dead in his Los Angeles home on Friday at the age of 47.

Although the White Lotus star, 40, was notoriously private when it came to her romance with the writer and director, they shared some insight into their love story a few times..

The couple, who first started dating in 2011, worked together on numerous films, and Aubrey once explained that being in the same “field” really strengthened their relationship.

However, she added that sharing a job with your partner could be “challenging” if not done properly, and credited her husband with creating a “safe space” and not feeling to be drawn into the ‘power dynamics’.

The low-key couple made headlines in 2021 after Aubrey revealed that she and the filmmaker secretly tied the knot in an impromptu backyard ceremony.

The wedding came about after she jokingly suggested they get married on their 10th anniversary, and saw them in homemade tie-dye pajamas exchanging vows in front of their ‘real witches’ neighbor.

Aubrey, who previously came out as bisexual, later revealed that Jeff received death threats from the LGBTQ+ community over their marriage.

She was also honest about how her relationship has gone through its fair share of “rough patches,” revealing that she struggled with “comparing herself” to “other couples who seem perfect.”

But despite the hardships, they prevailed, and in 2022, Aubrey admitted they were thinking about starting a family together.

She revealed at the time that she considered having a baby during the COVID-19 pandemic, but ultimately decided against the “apocalyptic state of the world.”

Amid the shocking news of Jeff’s death, take a look back at Aubrey and Jeff’s 14-year relationship.

From their secret wedding and Aubrey’s confession about why they decided not to have a baby to their “rough spots” and the “death threats” he faced, here’s everything we know about their marriage.

Collaborating on numerous projects: Aubrey said being in the same field helped them “understand” each other “on a deeper level”

The couple started dating sometime in 2011, but the exact date they got together and how they first met is unknown.

Over the years, they have worked together on numerous projects, including the 2014 film Life After Beth, 2016’s Joshy, 2017’s The Little Hours and the 2022 comedy film Spin Me Round.

In 2019, Aubrey explained that being in the same “field” helped them “understand” each other “on a deeper level.”

“I think when you’re with someone who’s in your field, they understand what you’re dealing with on a deeper level,” the actress told People magazine at the time.

“So it’s clear that you can support each other and really understand the journey that we’re both on.”

Noting that “working with your partner” can be challenging, Aubrey explained that it’s important that they also have time apart because of their jobs.

‘I think that can be very beautiful. But you know, working with your partner can always be a challenge,” she continued.

“There’s a lot of things we do separately, and I think it’s all about balance.

“I think one of the great things about our careers is that we’re forced to be independent, take little breaks, go away and do our things, and come back.

“So it’s quite fun. Nothing is ever the same. You don’t want to spend too much time apart. But I think there is a way it can work, and there is a balance in that.”

While you’re talking to Cosmopolitan in 2022, Aubrey said that having a “little competition” helped keep their romance “interesting and fiery.”

“But I think collaboration is key,” she added. “You have to create a very safe space to work together because you’re the only person who can really offend your partner and you’re the one person they want approval from the most, and then you’re also the only person that they would can be knocked down so hard.

‘There is also a strange power dynamic when one person is a director and one person is an actor.

‘There are all these unspoken rules. Don’t know. I don’t want to compete with my partner. I want to compete with everyone.”

Jeff is excited about working with Aubrey, telling Reel Talker in 2022, “She’s amazing. I would work with her if she wasn’t my wife, but luckily she is my wife.

‘The opportunity to do something creative [together] where we are both satisfied – how rare is that?’

Their Spontaneous Wedding: The couple secretly got married in their backyard while wearing matching pajamas

Aubrey subtly revealed that they secretly tied the knot while promoting their film Spin Me Round in May 2021.

At the time, she praised the film on her Instagram — calling Jeff her “husband” in the post.

“I’m so proud of my sweet husband for coming up with another movie that takes us to Italy to cause even more trouble,” she wrote.

Months later, she shared details about their private wedding The Ellen DeGeneres Showand she explained that they tied the knot with a very low-key backyard wedding during the COVID-19 lockdown after “getting a little bored one night.”

‘One evening we were a bit bored. So we got married and I’ll tell you how: Onehourmarriage.com. That’s real, look it up,” she said.

‘We were in lockdown. It got a little crazy, especially at my house.”

Aubrey explained that she wanted to “do something” to celebrate their tenth anniversary, and “joked” that they “should get married.”

But Jeff liked the idea and they quickly organized a ceremony to be held on the lawn outside their home.

She said she found someone to guide this on the website Onehourmarriage.com and created her own “altar of love.”

“My now husband went to pick up food from a restaurant because we had already ordered food,” she said.

‘He almost missed the wedding because he had to wait so long for the order.

‘I quickly made a love altar in our garden. Facts about our love, small stones, smoke, fire. Things of that nature.

‘Then the [officiant] from Alhambra showed up in a Hawaiian shirt with a briefcase. I don’t remember much about it, it was vague. But I’m pretty sure it was legal.”

She also described the ceremony as “witchy” and explained that she asked her “real witch” neighbor to give them her blessing.

“She went into her house and was rummaging around. [Then] came out with a rosemary wreath that she gave me. She was literally cackling,” the star revealed.

They both wore tie-dye pajamas that Jeff made, and she finished her look with a crown.

Overcoming public backlash: Jeff received ‘death threats’ over marriage, and Aubrey admitted they sometimes went through ‘rough patches’

After speaking out about the wedding, Aubrey, who previously came out as bisexual, told Cosmopolitan that people in the LGBTQ+ community were sending Jeff “death threats.”

“Jeff was getting death threats in his DMs,” she said. “People project so many things onto the wedding, but it wasn’t some big statement that I’m trying to make that I want everyone to respond to.”

In 2022, Aubrey relented GQ that she was considering “having a baby during the pandemic,” but ultimately decided against it due to the “apocalyptic state of the world.”

She told the publication that she “always wanted children.”

But she was also honest about the fact that her relationship had its fair share of “rough spots.”

While reflecting on how she related to her White Lotus character Harper, she told the outlet, “I’ve been with my husband for 12 years. I’m talking about being in a relationship with ups and downs, going through a rough patch and comparing yourself to another couple who seems perfect.”

Jeff’s shock passes at the age of 47: the filmmaker was found dead by an assistant in his LA home on Friday

Jeff was found dead by an aide in his LA home around 10:30 a.m. on Friday, DailyMail.com confirmed. He was pronounced dead at the scene.

The family told it Term that they are devastated by the news and ask for privacy at this time.

DailyMail.com has contacted representatives for Aubrey and Jeff as well as police for comment.

Aubrey has not commented publicly on her husband’s death.

He is survived by his wife, his mother Barbra Stern, stepfather Roger Stern, his stepmother Michele Baena, his brother Brad Baena and his step-siblings Bianca Gabay and Jed Fluxman.