I’m worried I’ve ruined my daughter’s life by calling her Violet

A woman sparked an argument after she said she is “fighting” with her daughter’s name because she fears the youngster will be “bullied”.

Taking over the UK breeding platform momsnetthe anonymous woman explained that she was “triggered by a thread I read on” the website that says her baby’s name, Violet, is akin to “violent or vile.”

She went on to explain that she is now concerned that her daughter may be “bullied at school” because of her name.

Many rushed into comments to reassure women that the name Violet is beautiful, however, others admitted that some may mispronounce it.

The mom wrote: ‘I had a DD (dear daughter) recently and named her Violet. Since then I have had problems with the name. I like it, but I’m worried that my lovely DD will be bullied because of the name I gave him. I think this was triggered by a thread I read on Mumsnet that said it was violent/vile.

‘I am tying myself in a knot worried that I have ruined his life and it will all be my fault. I am also in Northern Ireland and the name is not as popular here as it is in the UK and I am concerned about the regional pronunciation.

‘If you have a Violet in her teens / you are an adult Violet, have you been insulted or bullied because of your name?’

Many women took to the comments to say that they thought the name was ‘a lovely name’.

One person wrote: ‘What a lovely name! It was my first choice for my oldest son, but DH (dear husband) was not interested. I also love Vi’s nickname.

Another said: ‘Beautiful name! My friend has a daughter, Violet, she has never been associated with Violent or Vile!

Although as a teenager she decided to call herself Lettie. That I also think she’s a great name!

Someone else wrote: ‘Violet is a good name and I know several young people called that. She ignores the others.

While another wrote: “It’s a beautiful name, I live in Northern Ireland and I know at least 5 Violets and they range from babies to 80 years old.” It’s a lovely delicate little name and it just makes me think of flowers.

‘Locally you’ll notice that some people will stop using the o to be pronounced as Vilet, but that tends to be older folks. Enjoy your baby and the name, it is beautiful.

However, some people admitted that while the name is nice, others might spell it or pronounce it violent.

One person wrote: “I wanted to name our youngest, Violet, and then a colleague mentioned that it sounded like Violent and I couldn’t bring myself to do it.” I regret not using it now, it’s a beautiful name!

Another wrote: “It’s a cute name, but yeah, people can be really bad at reading names accurately, especially if they look like a different word at first glance.”

‘For example, my brother’s name is Harvir and the number of people who look briefly and then confidently say ‘Xavier!’ It is remarkable. Especially how it is pronounced as it is written!

“So it’s definitely going to get people who are crazy about reading/attention to detail saying ‘violent’ as it gets older, but that’s no reason not to have it as a name.” It’s perfectly nice.

While another said: ‘My great-grandmother was purple. Apparently she was violent and so they nicknamed her.

“However, the name is absolutely beautiful, don’t hesitate, there are so many strange names out there, violet is not one of them in my opinion.”

The original poster later admitted that she might be suffering from a bit of anxiety, but thanked the other moms for their thoughts on the name.

She wrote: ‘Thank you all for your lovely messages. It means a lot to see that others do not make the same associations.

“I think those who have mentioned anxiety may be correct. Initially I was very happy with the name, then overthinking it occurred to me and I’ve been searching/watching movies where people are called Violet to see if she’s okay in the movie or what her peers will think when they meet or see her. shows I love the name and so does my husband. I just worry

“As for the nickname, it’s probably V since my DH already calls his brother and me by our initials, even though we have normal names where the initial wouldn’t be a nickname.”