I’m moving in with my boyfriend in a week and found out he was subscribed to his ex’s OnlyFans
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I’m moving in with my boyfriend in a week and found out he was subscribed to his ex fling’s OnlyFans. Should he leave it?
A woman has revealed how she found out her boyfriend was subscribed to her ex-partner’s OnlyFans account just a week before they moved in together.
Earlier this month, the unnamed woman, believed to be from the UK, wrote to comedian Katherine Ryan’s Telling Everybody Everything podcast asking for help.
In his letter, he wrote: “One morning I dreamed that my boyfriend was still using OnlyFans.
‘I woke up from this dream at 4 am. I checked her phone while she was sleeping and she had been using OnlyFans.
Although OnlyFans is not designed exclusively for people to sell sexually explicit photos and videos, this is what the subscription-only social media platform has become best known for.
The anonymous woman discovered that her boyfriend had been paying for sexually explicit videos and photos from his exes’ OnlyFans accounts. stock photo
After snooping through her boyfriend’s account, the woman found evidence that he had recently paid for two pornographic videos of an ex-partner.
She continued, “I started and cried and he promised he wouldn’t use OnlyFans anymore.”
But despite his promise, the girlfriend said she couldn’t trust him to be honest with her.
They wrote: ‘I found myself binge-gazing through his phone again.
‘Although I didn’t use OnlyFans, he had now used ManyVids, which is a similar platform. Isn’t this technically crossing my no OnlyFans limit?
‘Again, he was watching videos of his ex. ‘
Now the couple are due to move in together in a week and the woman says she checked her phone a third time.
“It has happened again,” he wrote. “He had been watching videos not of her ex, but of a girl he had slept with in the past.
Katherine Ryan told the woman that it sounded like a “huge deal breaker” and something she wouldn’t stand for in her own relationship.
‘I’m meant to move in with him in a week, is this a trap?’
The woman ended her letter by saying that she wanted to promote ethical pornography but couldn’t bear the thought of her boyfriend paying for videos and photos of her past partners.
After questioning whether the woman had actually dreamed of her partner using OnlyFans, Katherine, who recently welcomed her third child, said: “You’re lying to yourself because you don’t want to encourage ethical porn.”
“You want to encourage ethical pornography, but you wouldn’t be having this crisis if you didn’t really care.” […]
“You can have a positive attitude towards women and men who want to do sex work and still have a boundary in your relationship that isn’t right for you and I don’t think that makes you a hypocrite.”
Opining herself, the comedian continued: ‘I wouldn’t want Bobby looking at pornography either. Honestly, if I saw him looking at him now, he would really freak me out.
The comedian told the woman that it sounded like a “massive boundary violation” and urged her not to move in with her boyfriend. stock photo
Calling the woman’s partner looking at her exes a ‘massive boundary violation’, Katherine said: ‘I would just be very candid.
‘Too often, we expect people to read our minds. I would say [tom him]”I feel like when you look at your ex in a sex tape, you were imagining what it would be like to fuck her.”
“And by using your imagination like that, I feel like you’re cheating on me. It feels like a betrayal and it’s not like she’s some imaginary porn actress you’ll never talk to in your life, she’s someone whose parents you’ve met and I don’t care.” like”.
Ultimately, Katherine recommended that the woman not move in with her current partner.
She added: “He could be a great boyfriend now. […] but he’s not the one. This would be a big deal breaker for me.