I’m a Sex Expert – These Are the Bedroom Fantasies Americans Are Most Desperate For

Have you ever felt a strange twinge of sexual arousal for something unusual? You might have a fetish.

According to sex coach Marie Morice, who spoke exclusively to DailyMail.com, most people who enjoy sex have at least one.

She said: ‘Fetishes are a form of sexual desire where satisfaction is strongly linked to a particular object, activity or part of the body other than the genitals.’

The most common fetish for men is feet and objects related to feet, such as shoes and socks. But fetishes can also be anything from muscles to tattoos to pantyhose.

According to Morice, there are four categories of fetish: visual, sensual, and experiential fantasy. Women are often aroused by the last category.

A 2015 survey of 1,500 respondents found that men and women often have different fantasies.

Morice said: ‘One interesting finding between men and women was that women were more likely to have a fantasy about submission and men were more likely to have a fantasy about dominance.

‘For example, women prefer to be spanked, tied up, whipped and generally dominated. Men, on the other hand, often want to behave in a dominant manner.’

Morice, who worked for seven years at the United Nations in New York, made a unique career change a few years ago.

She retrained as a sexologist and swapped the meeting room for bedtime.

Morice has dealt with clients who enjoyed being wrapped in plastic wrap and who liked to experiment with food and bodily fluids during sex.

“When it comes to sexuality, there is no normal. Based on my anecdotal evidence, I would say that most people have some kind of non-vanilla sexual expression but may be unaware of it or too shy or embarrassed to embrace it,” she said.

Morice said, “In their 1980 empirical study of sexual variation, Gosselin and Wilson indicated that the most common body fetishes are feet, hands, and hair, and that the most common fetish objects are shoes, gloves, and (dirty) underwear.”

Morice said, “Most fetishism research involves heterosexual men who have fetishistic desires for feminine items such as high-heeled shoes, lingerie, and stockings. Among homosexual men, the fetishistic objects tend to be very masculine.”

So why do people develop fetishes? There’s a lot of research into why people develop fetishes, Morice explained.

A study by the University of Bologna found that the most common fetishes involve body parts (30 percent), followed by objects related to body parts: shoes or gloves for

By far the most common fetish is for feet and objects associated with feet (e.g. shoes and socks)

According to Morice, fetishes can take many forms, including fetishes that exist only as thoughts.

She said, “Sometimes thoughts can be kinky (without you necessarily acting on them) because they are taboo themselves.

‘For example, fantasizing about having sex with someone who doesn’t want it (like a priest) – that all falls under the broader fantasy category.’

According to Morice, it is commonly believed that fetishes begin at a young age, although research has not proven that this is always the case.

Morice said: ‘Some research has shown that many fetishes appear to be the result of early imprinting and conditioning experiences in childhood or adolescence (for example, when sexual arousal and/or orgasm involve non-sexual objects or body parts) or as a result of strong traumatic, emotional and/or physical experiences.

‘The sensory memories are activated by the object or body part.’

Do fetishes start in our childhood or adolescence?

According to Morice, research into fetishes is often hampered by small sample sizes (rarely more than 100 participants) and research involving psychiatric patients and sex offenders.

Morice believes that most of us have a fetish, but some choose not to express it or even acknowledge it.

Fetishes vary greatly between different cultures (often depending on what is ‘taboo’ in a particular place), but also between different sexualities.

Common treatments for unwanted fetishes include cognitive behavioral therapy, which trains one not to think about the fetish.

Morice believes in being nonjudgmental and encourages people to enjoy their sex lives in a healthy and safe way. However, she does have limits.

She said: ‘The most important thing as a clinical sexologist is to be trained to understand non-traditional practices and to create a space where people can express their desires and quirks without judgement and without imposing your own ideas of right and wrong. To remind people that there is no ‘normal’ when it comes to our sexuality.’