A relationship expert is warning new couples to have an “important conversation” about sex early in their relationship to avoid being left with “boring sex” 10 years later.
Sex and relationships expert Dr Tara Suwinyattichaiporn appeared on the 90s Baby Show podcast with South London presenters Fred Santana, Temi Alchemy and VP to highlight the importance of expressing your sexual desires.
In a video shared with InstagramThe specialist, who recently caused a stir when she said that men who are sexually inactive can develop a shrunken penis, said the “big talk” is crucial because it helps your partner learn more about your favorite “sex kinks and toys.”
For those who were afraid of offending their significant other with the flashy topic, she suggested approaching the conversation in a subtle way.
She explained it in two main concepts: ‘Macrosexual communication and microsexual communication; macrosexual communication is about your sex life.
Sex and relationship expert Dr Tara Suwinyattichaiporn (pictured) has warned new couples to have a ‘big talk’ about sex early in life to avoid ‘still having boring sex 10 years down the road’
‘For example, if you want to try new things, discover new twists and turns, or a new toy, then have that conversation outside the bedroom, outside your home, in a relaxed environment.’
The expert — who is also an associate professor at California State University — instructed couples to try saying, “Hey, honey, let’s talk about sex” or “What do we want to try this year? What’s something new that we’ve maybe been thinking about that we want to share with each other?”
She stressed that “every couple needs to have this conversation” or else “they’d be having boring sex 10 years later.”
“You will realize that it is so difficult to talk about sex now because I don’t want to offend my partner,” she continued.
“You need to have this conversation early in a relationship – but it’s never too late. Even if you’ve been together for 10 years, you can still have it.”
She reiterated the importance of initiating such a conversation, jokingly encouraging viewers to tell their partners they heard about the “big talk” on the 90s Baby Show.
She concluded: ‘If you talk openly about sex more often, you will have a happier sex life in a long-term relationship’.
In an interview with the Do It Podcast In 2022, she explained that microcommunication deals with “everyday” matters such as “sexual initiation, aftercare.”
She appeared on the 90s Baby Show podcast with South London presenters Fred Santana (bottom left), Temi Alchemy (bottom right) and VP (top left) to highlight the importance of communicating your sexual desires
Tara said the ‘big talk’ was crucial because it helped your partner learn about your favorite ‘sex kinks and toys’. She also broke the conversation down into two concepts: microsexual communication and macrosexual communication
“It’s the dirty talk. It’s the sexting,” she continued. “The little things you do in a day to — oh, gosh, I hate the word ‘spice up your sex life.’ It’s basically to, let’s say, maintain passion.”
Intimate moments can be the key to great sex, according to an intimacy coach.
For the best sex, people over 40 should schedule a meeting in their diary and discuss what will happen in the bedroom to ensure mutual satisfaction, explains Ruth Ramsay.
To avoid misunderstandings, it’s much safer to ask someone if you can kiss them first, says the expert who helps couples improve their sex lives.
She said people need to let go of the idea that planned sex is unromantic and embrace planning it and discussing what it entails.
Ruth told the Mail: ‘We’re attached to the idea of spontaneous, wordless, passionate sex, but in middle age, in long-term relationships, planning sex and knowing it’s coming can create more desire.
‘We should not view sex as something we do spontaneously when there is time for it, after everything else in life, from work to housework to administrative tasks and childcare, is done.
‘This is how people go for weeks or months without sex.
“It’s better to see it as a hobby, where you spend an hour doing it because it’s important to you and you want to make sure it happens.”