I’m a divorce lawyer and working parents almost always break up for the same reason
A leading US divorce lawyer explains why he thinks many couples hit the rocks when they become working parents – by saying that men just don’t get their money’s worth when they’re at home.
Family attorney Dennis R Vetrano, Jr., who lives in New York, posts regularly on his TikTok divorce trends he identifies when it comes to warring couples.
He says couples who both have jobs under pressure — and kids to care for — often see their relationship fall apart because women are still expected to handle many of the household chores.
The clip has since been viewed more than 4.5 million times.
He opens with the question: ‘Do you want to know what the big red thread is that I see in the divorce industry, as a divorce lawyer, as I consult these days?’
He goes on to say that he’sI see working moms doing it all, and I see the husbands step back and say, “Huh, I don’t have to do anything!”‘
New York attorney Dennis R. Vetrano, Jr. has seen his video about why working parents often break up more than 4.5 million views on TikTok
Explaining how household chores are often not shared equally, he says: “She’s got the kids, she’s got the groceries, she’s got the laundry, she’s got the meals, she’s got the job, and besides, she’s making all the money and she’s paying for the house and everything else.”
He says he’s noticed that men often think they can “hang out” with friends instead of sharing the burden at home.
He added in the 28-second clip that “women are tired” — and often hit a breaking point, which leads to relationships falter.
The video sparked hundreds of comments, many from working moms who said they’d experienced exactly what he was talking about.
The video sparked hundreds of comments, many from working moms who said they’d experienced exactly what he was talking about.
Another wrote: ‘We are getting sick of the mental strain. Have to give instructions about everything. It is tiring.’
One divorcee wrote, “I had less work as a single mother of two than as a married mother of two.”
Another said her child’s relationship was also affected, writing, “My ex stuck his head in a video game while I was raising our sons. I left and he’s now surprised why my teenage sons won’t have anything to do with him!’
One of them wrote: ‘This is why I got divorced. He then accused me of cheating! When would I have time? I’m not even on the couch.’
According to the American Psychological Association, just under half of all first marriages end in divorce.
In the UK it’s a similar figure, with 42 per cent of couples breaking up after walking down the aisle.