I’m a dating expert – here’s why you should NEVER text at the start of a new relationship
A dating expert has revealed why you shouldn’t constantly text your crush in the early stages of dating, especially if you want to show that you’re the one.
Sabrina ZoharThe 33-year-old regularly shares advice for those looking for love – as well as those already in a relationship – with her 422,000 TikTok followers.
Most recently, the California-based love specialist explained why you should avoid exchanging messages back and forth with your potential partner all day long.
In a viral clip that has been viewed more than 390,000 times to date, the host of dating podcast Do The Work noted that you need to let go of your fear around texting and live your own life to keep the right person around instead of communicating. without ‘intention’.
Sabrina Zohar, 33, is a dating expert who revealed why you shouldn’t constantly text your crush in the early stages of dating
She regularly shares advice for those looking for love – as well as those already in relationships – with her 422,000 TikTok followers
Most recently, the California-based love specialist explained why you should avoid exchanging messages back and forth with your potential partner all day
She captioned the video: “Texting and control in dating.”
The love specialist noted that anxious people often try to stay in touch all day long to keep their relationship under control.
At the beginning of the video, Sabrina said, “Stop trying to text to take control of a situation.”
She added, “I see this every damn day.”
Although Sabrina noted that she understood why people were concerned in the early stages of dating, continued communication would not solve the problem.
She explained that when one partner didn’t text the other, the one on read would start playing mind games and firing off messages so they didn’t “forget.”
“What you’re really trying to do is try to take control of the situation,” the dating expert said.
“Dating means there are no guarantees, and it takes two willing people, it takes two participants.”
In a viral clip, she noted that you need to let go of your fear around texting and live your own life to keep the right person around instead of communicating without “intention.”
The love specialist noted that anxious people often tried to stay in touch all day to keep their relationship under control
Sabrina emphasized that texting should always be intentional and not a routine that you get into.
“What happens is you try to text to get control, like, ‘Well, I haven’t heard from him in three days, so I’m going to text him so I can start the conversation,'” she explained. .
“That’s fine if you really have something to say.”
The love coach said that communicating intentionally was “very different” from sending messages to your loved one because you “(wanted) them to respond” or because you think they would “forget about you.”
“Part of dating with intention means interacting with intention, texting with intention, all of the above,” she said.
“So if you don’t really have anything to say, don’t have anything deep to offer to a conversation or something to start a conversation with that makes sense, then please stop using texting as a way to take control to get. situation.
Viewers flooded the comments section, praising the dating coach for her advice
“All it will do is blow up in your face if someone doesn’t behave the same way you want them to, because you can’t control other people, you can only control yourself.”
Viewers flooded the comments section, praising the dating coach for her advice.
One person wrote: ‘I really appreciate every post from you. I’ll get you into therapy and dig deep!’
Someone else commented: ‘Absolutely! If they don’t respond, walk away.”
Another user wrote: ‘I really needed this, thanks!’
“I love this,” a fourth user added.