A dating expert has revealed five types of people who can be surprisingly bad at dating – because of their positive traits.
Jacob Lucas is a British coach who has used his real-world methods to ‘help millions of people get the love life they’ve always wanted’.
He is the author of the guide Her Dating Coach, he works directly with clients, and he also shares dating content on TikTok with his 766,000 followers.
In a recent videohe discussed how positive traits, such as being intelligent and ambitious, can actually hinder people’s efforts when it comes to relationships.
In the video, Jacob says: ‘I’m a professional dating coach. And (here are) five types of people who surprisingly struggle when dating because of their good qualities.
Dating coach Jacob Lucas (pictured) revealed that some positive traits can surprisingly make dating more difficult
‘You can even have all five of these qualities. And if you do, then you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about.’
The number one quality he mentions in the video is intelligence.
According to Jacob: ‘Intelligent people… struggle when dating because intelligent people need a lot of mental stimulation, and they need a partner on the same wavelength.
‘They also get very bored with surface conversations, and want deep conversations. And it can be quite difficult to find.’
The second positive quality he mentions is being ‘very beautiful’. Jacob explains: ‘First of all, if you’re really good looking, most people won’t even approach you because they’re afraid you’re going to reject them anyway.
‘And that’s going to make the dating experience quite isolating for you.
‘And secondly, if you’re very good-looking, people get very nervous around you and tend to treat you differently. So it can be quite difficult to find out what people’s true personalities are like.’
Moving on to the third positive trait that can make dating more difficult, Jacob lists people who “love romance in their relationship.”
Among the people who may find dating more difficult are good-looking people, those who are intelligent, those with ambition, romantic types and very loyal people, according to Jacob
He says: ‘Sometimes they struggle when they go out because they want to go on romantic dates, and have big romantic gestures in their relationship.
‘And some people don’t appreciate that kind of thing. So the amount of people they would date becomes much smaller.’
The fourth trait is ambition, with Jacob saying that if someone is very ambitious, and they date someone who is not ambitious, it can ‘lead to very awkward conversations’. This, he explains, is because ‘they don’t have the same mindset’.
He adds: ‘So ambitious people tend to do much better when they date other ambitious people.’
Finally, he says the fifth positive trait that can make dating difficult is being “100 percent loyal,” as these types of people often expect that from others — but don’t always find it.