I want to divorce my wife because of the ‘shocking’ name she wants to call our baby boy
A new father is furious after discovering his wife planned to name their son after her late ex-husband.
The man said his wife had been secretive about their son’s name, which was her first husband’s middle name.
He revealed that she had asked if she could name the baby James after the dead man, but he told her it didn’t feel right to name the baby after her ex.
So they chose the name Oliver instead.
But he didn’t realize the meaning of the name until her sister spilled the beans at the family dinner.
A new father is furious after discovering his wife planned to name their son after her late ex-husband
I told them (the family) about the name we chose. Her sister then said ‘oh, so like James?’ and I was confused, so her sister said, ‘Well, that was James’ middle name, wasn’t it?'” he wrote in a message that has now been deleted.
‘After they all left, I told my wife that I was having a hard time bringing her late husband into our lives like this. She said we already agreed on Oliver. “I told her I won’t sign the birth certificate if she names it after her ex-husband,” he wrote.
He added that the family was torn over the name and its link to the woman’s first love.
‘She says she’s insensitive and her mother says I had to let it go because it was just a middle name. Her sister says it’s weird in any scenario to name the baby after James.”
The Reddit community sided with the expectant father, saying it was wrong for his wife to suggest the name without context.
‘If you want to move on and build a life with someone new, you have to commit to it. Not doing so is, in many ways, insanely cruel to your new partner.
“I’m not saying she should erase the memory of her first husband, but naming your child after him is a bit much,” one person wrote.
Others were bolder in their approach to the situation
“Go away, let the dead husband take the name and responsibilities if he can rise from the grave,” one person wrote.
“If she’s not ready to let him go then she shouldn’t be in a relationship or have a child with someone else,” another snapped.
Others said the conflict was grounds for divorce.
But some took the woman’s side.
“He died, she still loves him,” one man said.
“I mean it’s not like she ended the relationship and it’s not like they broke up, he died so it makes sense to me,” another agreed.
Others called on him to “compromise” and accept James or Oliver as a middle name.
The man revealed that the woman’s first husband had died suddenly eight years ago.
She was pregnant with their daughter at the time, but tragically suffered a miscarriage.
Another man complained that his wife had wanted to do the same, despite losing her husband fifteen years earlier.
When he told her that he understands why she wants to name the baby after his first love, he was uncomfortable with her turning on him.
She told him that he was jealous and insecure about her feelings for a dead man, which he felt was unfair to say.
‘His photo hangs on the wall of our family photos, we sometimes visit his grave together, his parents sometimes come to visit my wife. She still has her wedding ring from their wedding (she isn’t wearing it though) and is wearing a necklace he bought her. I’m okay with it all,” he said.
People sided with him and told his wife to look at the big picture.