I told my best friend I didn’t like her unflattering wedding dress – people are saying I’m jealous

A woman who criticized her best friend’s “unflattering” wedding dress has broken up with colleagues who called her “jealous and pathetic.”

Earlier this month, the woman from the Netherlands shared her dilemma on Reddit.

She explained how her friend chose to wear a “shimmering bright red dress” to her beach wedding three months ago.

The woman wrote: ‘[It was the kind of dress] you will see celebrities wearing it at the MET gala.

“It was very unique and she stood out beautifully, but in my opinion the dress didn’t flatter her, nor did the location and I personally didn’t like it.”

That said, the anonymous friend decided to keep her opinion to herself – noting that the bride had an “amazingly confident look.”

She continued, “I wouldn’t be the person to tell her that on her wedding day and ruin the night for her, so the rest of the day was really fun and I had an incredible time with her and all of our other friends.” .’

Last week, the newlywed couple came to her friend’s house to watch a movie and asked her what she “honestly” thought of the dress.

After the wedding, the bride’s “traditional” parents admitted that they wish she had worn white on her big day.

However, the bride – whose husband is Indian – decided to go for a red dress, as it is tradition in her partner’s culture.

In a later post, she added: “[Her in-laws] really wanted her to wear a traditional Indian red dress, but she had always wanted to wear a white lace dress on her wedding day, then she came up with the idea of ​​wearing a “western” wedding dress, but that the color red would be must be. ‘

The friend went on to explain how she was unable to go dress shopping with the bride and ended up ordering one online without trying it on.

The friend felt put in her place and continued: “With all due respect I told her that while I thought the dress made her stand out and was very unique, in my personal opinion I wasn’t too fond of it and it flattered her. not.’

The bride turned to her first for reassurance after her traditional parents said they wished she had worn a white dress

After that, the bride stormed out of her house – and her husband later told the friend that she cried for hours afterwards.

She continued, “One of her best friends sent me a long message about how even though he agrees with me, I didn’t have to tell her because it’s not our place and that I came across as jealous and pathetic.”

She then ended her post by asking if she was wrong to express her honest opinion about the wedding dress.

The dilemma sparked fierce debate among users – with some claiming she shouldn’t have said anything.

One of them replied, “She’ll never wear that dress again, so there was no reason to make her unhappy with a once-in-a-lifetime experience.”

Another added, “Most “brutally honest” people are more interested in being brutal than honest.”

The dilemma sparked fierce debate among users – with some claiming she shouldn’t have said anything

A third said, “A lot of people will say, ‘She asked for honesty,’ but for God’s sake, that was your friend coming to you for some reassurance about her damn wedding dress.”

However, others felt the woman was right to express her honest opinion.

“She unlocked a life lesson,” said one supporter. “Don’t ask the question if you’re not willing to hear the answer.”

“If someone tells me to be honest, I will be honest,” said another. “I think the friend was crying because she knew in her heart that it wasn’t a flattering dress, but it’s easier to blame [her friend] to be mean than to admit she didn’t make the best choice.”

In a follow-up post, the woman explained how she made amends with the bride and is glad she didn’t lie to her close friend.

She added: “I still think I should have worded it right, but I’m glad I didn’t lie to her as many of you suggested – lying would have broken the trust she and I have for each other. and I’m not comfortable with that.

I’m so happy to say this, but she and her husband have decided to have a small wedding party with some close friends and family where everything goes as planned and where she can wear a dress she likes and take new photos. to make. I can not wait for it!’