A woman has celebrated the end of her marriage by throwing herself a divorce party, complete with a Taylor Swift-inspired heart cake.
Ilma Amin, 28, from Tower Hill, London, threw a ‘glam’ themed party with 30 of her closest friends after finalizing a divorce from her husband of three years in May this year.
The business analyst says she’s thrilled with her new-found singledom, adding that she’s “so young and pretty.” People are impressed when they find out that she is already married.
The stunning party featured a Taylor Swift-inspired cake with the words ‘legally single’ on it, alongside ‘single and loves it’ party balloons, and divorce maids instead of standard bridesmaids.
However, the tricks were marred when her new boyfriend dumped her just two days after the party, but resilient Ilma is already on the hunt for a new man.
Ilma Amin (pictured), 28, from Tower Hill, London, threw a ‘glamour’ themed divorce party with 30 of her closest friends after finalizing a divorce from her husband of three years
The stunning party featured ‘single and loves it’ party balloons and divorce maids instead of standard bridesmaids
Describing her special day, she exclaimed, “It was the most perfect night ever.
“I never got to have that white wedding, so the celebration was that I had it. It looked like a bachelor party and a white wedding at the same time.
“I had a full bouquet and I threw it to the next person who’s getting divorced. I had speeches, divorce girls and my best men.”
Ilma also wore a silver ring in the shape of a question mark: “It shows that I’m not done yet,” she said.
‘Obviously I’m getting married again, so who’s next? Who dares to be my next husband?
“If I need attention, I wear the ring and say, ‘Do you think you can hack it?’ Or maybe on first dates.
Ilma said she never had the chance to enjoy a wedding ceremony as it was canceled due to the Covid-19 pandemic.
She divorced her husband in 2022 after the relationship “broke down over time” and before the celebrations could be rescheduled.
The business analyst said she’s thrilled with her new-found singleness, adding that she’s “so young and pretty.” People are impressed when they find out that she is already married.
Ilma and her friends enjoyed a Taylor Swift-inspired cake with the inscription ‘legally single’
After the breakdown of her marriage, she found solace in her friends who she said showed her “unconditional love” during the breakup, adding that they cooked for her, let her couch surf and offered their shoulders to help her at her lowest moments to cry.
Ilma decided to bounce back by throwing a party for her and her friends, and sought inspiration from another woman who had dealt with a few heartbreaks of her own.
“The cake is inspired by the heart cake from Taylor Swift’s Blank Space music video,” Ilma explains.
“I thought I’d put something funny on the cake, and ‘legally single’ is funny.”
‘I had two looks. For the first outfit I wanted to look like a glamorous divorce queen, with a sash and a tiara.
‘I put on a short dress when I got drunk so I could dance – and it was white, because why not? It was the white wedding I never had.
“Those were just the tame pictures you saw. I wasn’t sure if I should post pictures of me getting a lap dance from my friends. It looks like they are strippers.
But less than 48 hours after the party, Ilma was dumped by the man she had been seeing for the past eight months and who she said helped her “heal” from the divorce.
Ilma said: ‘He went to the party knowing he would dump me on Monday.
Describing her special day, Ilma exclaimed: ‘It was the most perfect evening ever’. (Here she is pictured posing at her divorce party)
Speaking about her divorce, Ilma said: ‘I was happy not to be with him, but I never thought I would be divorced at 28’
‘He said he felt like it was disappearing and that it was best for us to part ways.
‘I’m going through the motions after the breakup. I cry, get angry and feel fine. It’s only been one week. It’s sad because I should be on the divorce party hype.
“I told him he should have dumped me before the divorce party because I could have been celebrating a divorce and a breakup. How funny is that?’
Ilma has shared much of her love journey with her 15,000 TikTok followers, claiming she didn’t want to hide her divorce from anyone.
‘I survived such a traumatic moment, why should I be ashamed?
‘I’m so young and handsome, the stigma is quite funny. When I drop the bomb that I’m divorced, it’s entertaining’.
It wasn’t all fun in games and at times she found herself “crying every day” because of the separation. But Ilma says it’s worth it if it helps other women in similar situations.
“Sometimes when I have days where I’m sad about the divorce, people don’t take it seriously because they’re so used to me laughing about it.
‘The days leading up to the divorce party I cried every day. I was glad I wasn’t with him, but I never thought I would be divorced at 28.
‘I post on TikTok in the hope that it will reach women and men who are in difficult situations and feel stuck and that their lives cannot continue after a divorce.
Ilma also wore a silver ring in the shape of a question mark (pictured): “It shows that I’m not ready yet,” she said
“I had to teach myself that divorce is not something sad that happened to me.
“I owe it to myself to make it a fun party and reflect with my friends and thank them for being there.”
Ilma has now sworn off ‘stingy’ younger men and says the divorce has changed her view on dating.
‘I want to be slow and conscientious about dating in the future.
‘It was such a strong and intense romance with my ex-husband, where neither of us really thought about the future. We just thought we were meant for each other.
“My next marriage won’t be in my twenties. I’ll wait until I’m thirty.
‘I definitely want to prevent another divorce from happening, but if it happens again, I will have to throw another party. There are expectations now.
‘I have sworn off younger men. They’re so stingy, I can’t do that. Even if they have money, I never split 50/50. I never did that with my ex-husband and he was younger than me.
“I’m not going to wear my expensive outfit and makeup to split it 50/50 if he gets the most beautiful girl in the restaurant: me.
Ilma shared her “divorce party must-haves” on TikTok, in a viral post that received nearly 980,000 views, more than 180,000 likes and 860 comments.