I think my rich friends are tacky for asking for money as a wedding gift

A woman has divided opinion after sharing her annoyance at being asked to contribute money for the honeymoon as a wedding present for a wealthy couple.

Posting on the UK parenting forum Mumsnetthe disgruntled wedding guest said it felt “presumptuous and tacky” to be asked for cash, and was particularly irked as the couple made £150,000 together.

She added that after 10 years and having children together, it would be more appropriate if the couple had asked for a donation to charity.

Commentators were divided, with some claiming that asking for money as a wedding gift under any circumstances is “tacky.”

Others, however, took the poster to task for her attitude, claiming she sounded jealous of the couple’s success, and suggested she shouldn’t go to the wedding because she clearly doesn’t like them very much.

To explain her annoyance, the woman wrote that she had received two wedding invitations in a row asking for “money for our honeymoon as a gift.”

“I personally couldn’t physically write this into an invite because it just feels presumptuous and tasteless,” she said.

‘Perhaps this latest invitation has given me my support as this couple have been together for over a decade, already have children, earn around £150,000 together, have a huge house and already go on countless holidays at home and abroad.

“They could have easily omitted such a line from the invitation. I understand they don’t want toasters and towels, but I’m sure there’s another way.’

Her suggestion was to write, “Your presence at our wedding would be more than enough, but if you would like to gift us with something to celebrate this day, please make a donation to the XYZ charity that is very close to our hearts because of XYZ ? ?? For the fact that they bloody roll in it.’

She added in a later post, “Maybe there’s a bad feeling because some of us haven’t had a holiday abroad in years and they go several times and this is where I’m funding their next holiday.”

The post quickly exploded with some siding with the original poster agreeing that the sentiment of asking for cash didn’t sit well with them.

“Horribly tacky and grabby,” one wrote

Another agreed, saying, I think it’s tacky to include the gift list or ask for some kind of gift in the invitation. Wait for guests to reach out and ask what they want as a gift.”

A third suggested: “I’d be tempted to reply, “I’m sorry we can’t accept the wedding invitation or fund your honeymoon as that’s the weekend we’ll be in Blackpool. We’ve been saving all year. ”

However, others accused the woman of being jealous of the couple, saying it doesn’t matter how much they earn or how long they’ve been together.

‘Giving £50 to charity will still cost you £50. They don’t always have to be virtuous. You sound really mean and jealous of them [sic],’ added one person.

“Yeah, you sound jealous,” another agreed. “So people who are well off are not entitled to gifts? If you’re so upset, don’t go to a wedding or buy a gift.”

£150,000 barely rolls in. Just give them a gift if you can’t bear to contribute what they actually want. You sound jealous,” another Mumsnet user wrote.

Someone else wrote bluntly, “Don’t go because you obviously don’t like them.”

And other commenters said they actually enjoy gifting cash because it’s much easier than choosing something to buy.

One wrote, “I hate this too, but you’ll find most guests love it because it takes the pressure off of thinking about what to buy.”

“I’m always happy to give money,” agreed a fellow commentator. “The easiest, low-effort gift ever.

‘Rather that than having to invent something, buy it, pack it and still get a card, this way it’s buying a card and putting some money in it.