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I put my boyfriend on probation, and it could have saved our relationship
One woman described how she put her boyfriend on probation after they moved in together at the start of the pandemic, and that could have saved their relationship.
Nadeen Hui, from San Francisco, explained how she and her boyfriend decided to move in together “very early in our relationship,” but things didn’t exactly go as planned.
taking to Tik Tokthe 30-year-old said she quickly discovered they had ‘different levels of cleanliness that we needed at home’, especially while she was stuck indoors during the start of the Covid pandemic.
A few months later, Nadeen and her engineer boyfriend broke up. But they kept in touch, and he soon asked her what he could do to make the relationship work.
That’s when Nadeen came up with a Performance Improvement Plan, or PIP, in an attempt to salvage their relationship.
Nadeen Hui, from San Francisco, explained how she and her boyfriend decided to move in together “very early in our relationship,” but things didn’t exactly go as planned.
A PIP is a term used to describe a set of goals that an employer typically gives an employee to help improve their performance in the workplace.
Sharing the plan on social media, Nadeen said: “In the end we decided we wanted to stay together, and these lifestyle changes were for the better, why not do it?”
“I had to learn to be more tolerant and accepting, and he had to learn to be more orderly and considerate of shared spaces.”
The PIP involved Nadeen sharing a note with “daily and weekly tasks that I needed to get done, and a set of things that I needed to work on,” she said.
The 30-year-old said she quickly discovered they had ‘different levels of cleanliness that we needed at home’, especially while she was stuck indoors during the start of the Covid pandemic.
Those who came across Nadeen’s TikTok videos had very mixed opinions about the method, with one person saying it’s “absolutely hilarious.”
This was a huge success, and Nadeen told Buzzfeed that the couple now uses a Kanban board, a project management tool, to help keep track of what needs to be done at home.
Those who came across Nadeen’s TikTok videos had very mixed opinions about the method, with one person saying it’s “absolutely hilarious.”
Another called the move ‘condescending’, while a third said: ‘I’d rather not be someone’s manager or assign tasks…’
Others were more positive, saying, “This is a really nice way to communicate instead of yelling and yelling at each other.”