I never wanted kids but my husband said it was a dealbreaker – we had them and now I’m a single mum

A TikTok user has revealed how her husband insisted they have children – before struggling to cope with parenthood and leaving the family.

Mom Update (known on TikTok as @momupdate2021) spoke about her situation in a viral video on the social media platform.

In the clip, she shared that she loved being an aunt, but had never felt the drive to become a mother herself.

But her husband said having a family was a deal breaker and he would be a full-time dad.

However, once the couple had two kids, he struggled with the pressures of parenthood, leaving Mom Update as a single mother.

In the video, she says, “So okay, I’ve got this is my confession.” So before I met my husband I told him I don’t want kids… I love kids. They are so sweet. They are cute. They are nice.

“I have 17 cousins. I was like, that’s enough. I love being an aunt.”

She explains that when she got together with her partner, she felt no maternal urge, but he insisted that they have children.

So, the TikTokker explains, she offered a compromise, explaining, “I’ll have the kids, right. But I will never give up my career or my way of life for our children.

“I will take care of them and, of course, love them. I knew I wasn’t going to be a stay-at-home mom.

“And I have an expectation of the way I want my children to be raised. And I told him, I don’t want them to be raised by other people. You know, I want them raised by Mom and Dad.’

She explained that she would work full-time while he would take on full-time parenting duties, including “grocery shopping, cleaning, taking care of the kids, running them back and forth to wherever they need to go, taking them to their appointments.” ‘.

After she returned to work, her husband quickly showed it [her] he couldn’t handle it’.

After having children, her husband struggled with the pressures of parenthood, and now she is a single mother

She continues, “I was like, I told you from the start. I didn’t want kids because I didn’t want this burden because it’s a lot… I said I’ll make sure I make enough money so you don’t have to work.

So now he couldn’t even handle that. So then I hired a babysitter. And I said you can take a few days a week or she just helps you around the house with the kids.

“He couldn’t stand having a babysitter in his house. Okay, he’s actually disappearing.’

Everything came to a head one evening when the nanny left and the man was upstairs alone, while the couple’s children played outside in the street.

According to the TikTok user, “I was furious. I was fucking furious when I got home. I was seriously so damn angry… I was like, you could have killed our kids. Like you’re so lucky nothing happened to them.

“So yeah, very soon after that I was like, ‘you gotta fucking look like you’re done’.”

Numerous commenters took to the video to share their thoughts, with many sympathizing with the content creator

“So I just think it’s really unfair that this guy knows all this about me now. It was made very clear. And somehow I’m still left with both of our kids. And he offers no support whatsoever to take care of these children.’

The video garnered widespread response, with many commenters sympathizing with the creator’s plight.

One wrote: ‘Everyone loves the idea of ​​having children. But some people can’t handle the responsibilities and demanding lifestyle of having children.’

Another agreed, adding: “This is why you should never compromise when it comes to children, many people like the idea of ​​children, not the reality.”

And a third wrote: ‘Same. I wanted ONE child, he wanted more so we had 3. He had an affair with a colleague and left. Now I am a single mother with 3 children.’