I make a point of arguing with my husband in front of our four children – I think it’s healthy and teaches them conflict resolution
A couple have sparked debate online after revealing they deliberately argued in front of their children.
Dallas native Nika Diwa took to TikTok to share her “unpopular” opinion that fighting in front of your kids is completely “healthy.”
The mother of four shared a video of herself arguing with her husband while her daughter was in her arms.
The couple purposefully argues in front of their children, believing it helps their children acquire “conflict resolution” skills.
Her video has since racked up over 60,000 likes, with many viewers agreeing with Nika’s sentiments. However, others have taken to the comments to express their concerns.
Dallas mom Nika Diwa (pictured center) took to TikTok to explain why she fights with her partner (pictured left) in front of their children (pictured right)
Nika realized that her opinion was ‘unpopular’ and could cause controversy.
However, she claimed that by arguing in front of her children, she was teaching them skills in conflict resolution.
To justify her reasoning, Nika said, “It is important that children learn to deal with healthy conflict.”
The couple allowed their children to watch them argue “respectfully” to “work toward resolution and unity.”
She concluded, “This helps them establish healthy conflict resolution as they grow.”
In the video, Nika and her partner appeared to exchange some angry words while two of their children were present, although what they said was not audible in the footage.
The couple let their children listen to their arguments and worked on unity to teach them conflict resolution
At the end of the clip, the couple settled the matter and kissed.
Viewers took to the comments section to share their thoughts on Nika and her husband’s decision. While some agreed with the concept, others found it concerning.
One said, “Man, I wish my parents did this.” Demonstrates healthy communication and respect, even if you disagree.”
A second person added: ‘My parents never did this. This shows healthy communication and respect, even if we don’t agree with each other.’
A third wrote: ‘I’ve never thought about it that way. Genius!!’
Hundreds of people took to the comments section to share their thoughts on the video, but many were divided
However, many other viewers were not so positive about the idea.
One said: ‘Don’t fight in front of your children. Yes! they are meant to think things are perfect, they are meant to see nothing but love and adoration for each other.”
A second wrote: ‘I guess it depends. I suffered a lot of trauma from listening to my parents’ arguments about finances.’
A third added: ‘I think children can witness disagreements/conversations, not arguments/fights.’
A fourth said: ‘Real healthy communication!! if it’s not healthy, don’t do it in front of the kids, please…from personal experience it causes a LOT of anxiety.”